Why is the idea of a woman wanting equality paired with "bitterness"?

You bet it is a victim mentality screaming for attention. Sometime somewhere these people had lost a job opportunity or two to a career woman. It really is hard to admit that she was a lot more qualified for the position she was hired for, when you are a useless weakling. So, they express their pain in long-winded and senseless whines on behalf of possible depravity of all career females for taking away jobs from blameless and most deserving men. Doesn't their behavior remind you of a spoiled toddler crying for a favorite toy he/she lost?

majority of the posters have no problem with equality. some do though.why?dunno. i guess same reason some posters blame men for pretty much everything

There is a great need for women to work because of financial pressure and there is no gender war going on when bills have to be paid. I don't detect any bitterness from men about women working.

Men want equality too. We call feminists bitter, not women who want equality<--- A feminist and a woman who wants equality are two different things. You can say what you want to the contrary, but feminism does not aspire to equality. Plain and simple.

Can you post a few links to those questions, so we can check them out; why would anyone think that women who have jobs are bitter?

"Likewise, there seems to be a negative stigma on trying to prove one is equal"

How come, isn't it widely accepted in society that we're all equal(not the same-identical, but that we should have equal rights, opportunities, responsibilities); what's there to prove?

This is strictly because women are fighting a one-sided battle. Women have possessed the same legal rights as men for approximately eighty years in America. No well-minded person in our current generation has agreed with separate gender representation.

The problem is that some individual "minority citizens" over-extend their bounds. For example, U.S colleges now offer special seats for minority students with lower GPA's in order to make up for past wrongs. What makes matters worse is that true minorities (such as the Jewish people, who currently make up less than 2.5 percent of the worlds pop.) aren't given these rewards simmply because our Countries do not feel it necessary to aid others they did not harm.

To be truly unbiased is to treat any indiviudual with the same kindness and equality as your neighbor. Once you have equal rights and representation, don't go looking for problems.

You know full well why and as an iFeminist, you're well aware of the sorts of feminists who have given the name that reputation.

Most people think FEMINISTS are bitter, hateful, et al. And a whole LOT of them are, especially the ones who consider iFeminists to actually be ANTI-feminists.

Most people don't have anything against women's freedom and independence, equal opportunity, and so forth. It's FEMINISTS they dislike. And you've allied yourself with a movement trying to reclaim the name "feminist" from those harridans but don't be surprised if people lump you with them.

Questions like this perpetuate that misunderstanding.

I agree with you Fereshte, it is a shaming tactic. Ignorant people constantly put down feminism and ideas about gender equality because they basically want to put us in 'our place', you just have to take a look at the majority of questions and comments in this section, any tv show, newspaper or out on the street to see that we still have a long way to go in terms of viewing women as human and not sex objects/stupid/emotional etc.

I'm happy to call myself a feminist, because feminism IS about equality. It's not about advancing only women's position, it's about breaking down the need for positions at all, stopping this us/them and becoming one, human. Not allowing socialised gender roles to restrict our lives and behaviour any longer.

Partially a shaming tactic, yes.

Also, it's partially supposed inspire fear in you (oh no, if I want equity, I'll never get a man!), and partially to discredit you in the public discourse (don't listen to that crazy b***h!).

Come on though...you know the rants from the antis that will come from this, and you KNOW that it will basically prove your point for you!

Hey hey once again for the peanut gallery!

It's because men are so slef-absorbed that they cannot FATHOM that being anything other than a slave to THEM would be as fulfilling. So, "obviously", these women who seek knowledge, education, experience, money, power, etc are "illogical" and most likely "lesbians" (you know, "feminists").

...because many feminists are exceedingly bitter themselves, and very vocal in their expression of anger towards men for perceived oppression,...and because while feminism is in theory about equality..in reality its about empowerment of women over men, and of female increased power and control in all sorts of areas of society....many of them detrimental to men.

...also imo the very term "feminism" is offensive to men simply because the word reflects a lack of balance....how can it be about equality, when the focus is on only one half?