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How often do you hang out with your friends without your significant other?

My husband and I have been married for 7 years. He is a home body, doesn't have any friends and doesn't want any. I didn't know he was quite so introverted when we got married. My first husband was a party animal and I guess I kind of got use to that, but then I thought I wanted a quieter life. Now I want to hang out with some of my co-workers after work, is that normal? How often do you hang out with your friends without you significant other?

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Your husband sounds like me. People do need time alone. You're going out without him a couple of times a week sounds like a good thing. Don't worry about it.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Maybe once a week, that's fine. I don't really hang out with friends much without my husband. We share friends. Maybe once a month or something I'll go shopping. He'll go do something with some of his guy friends every now and then. But we share our friends, so we hang out with them together most of the time.

  • 1 decade ago

    of course its normal. everyone needs their space!

    If your the type of person who likes to go out, you'll go crazy if your life is just spent at home and work. Get out there! Have fun! Its good for mental health, but keep in mind that you are married and that this might not be perceived too well by your husband, just make sure hes ok with it and all that =]]

  • zyllee
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I don't think there is one answer for what is normal because we are all different. My hubby is very introverted and rarely if ever wants to do go out or hang out with other people. However, he doesn't mind if I want to hang out with my girlfriends as he gets the house to himself for awhile and can work on his Camaro in peace and quiet (which he loves).

    So I guess it depends on if it bothers your hubby for you to hang out with others without him. If he doesn't care than what's the problem? Or is it because you want him to go with you? Otherwise don't worry about it and hang out with your friends. You don't have to be hooked at the hip constantly if you two don't feel the need to.

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  • 1 decade ago

    My husband is the same way. I make time for my friends maybe once every couple of weeks. It's perfectly normal to have your own time away from each other. Then sometimes we also hang out together with his or my friends.

    There's nothing wrong with wanting your own time with friends.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Yes, its normal, in fact its positively abnormal and unhealthy to expect your significant other to be your everything.

    I went away for the weekend with a girlfriend, my husband is going out tonight with work colleagues. Most weeks I go to a movie with a friend.

  • 1 decade ago

    A few times a week, maybe 2-3.

    You really didn't know that your husband doesn't have any friends (and doesn't want any friends) before you married him? Seriously?

  • 1 decade ago

    Couples should have their own friends. It's perfectly normal and healthy. I recently moved to a new city so I don't know THAT many people but when my SO and I do go out, we always talk to other people and are not glued at the hip.

  • 1 decade ago

    Basically, your limited to do certain stuff at home before your kiddos, your spouse, so you go else where, where you can enjoy your life to the fullest and be your self all the way.

  • K8
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Not often - I prefer his company and having our family together (we have older teens). I go to lunch with friends maybe once or twice a month (if that). We are both homebodies - I used to be less of one, but love being home more than him now.

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