Are these signs of an abusive relationship?

Because it is so early in the relationship, I can take this behaviors two ways. Firstly, he is simply being passionate to impress you. Secondly, these are potential signs of abusive tendencies. If he is listening to you after the second "no," then that is good. However, the fact that he doesn't listen the first time is cause for suspicion. In the early stages of relationship, most people are on their "best behavior" in order to reel in, and impress a potential date. If this is his "best behavior," and you are having doubts, then of course it is a red flag. Gut instincts are very often correct. Remember, if you are feelings uncomfortable, then there is a legitimate reason behind it. Here are some other EARLY warning signs...

1.A quick and easy temper - Not everyone with a bad temper will take it out on someone else, including someone they love. However, someone who gets angry over small things is likely to act before thinking. Frequent bouts of temper are something to watch out for. A pension for fighting is another. If social settings show a side of this person that seems to be picking constant fights, there's a good chance that he or she has an underlying streak of violence that might not be healthy in a long term relationship.

2.Constant criticism - People in a new relationship tend to feel elated over compliments and ignore any criticism, even if it's there. Pay attention to what the person you're seeing says to and about you. Constant comments about weight, hair color, or clothing are signs that they're not going to love you for you. When image is more important to someone than what lies beneath, the relationship can become superficial and verbally abusive. When they criticize you to or in front of others, it becomes a control tactic to see how much they can humiliate you. The moment you feel your self esteem take a downward turn, it's time to rethink this relationship.

3. Monopolization of your time - Even when you're in a relationship, you're going to want to keep in touch with your friends. If you find that your new boyfriend or girlfriend is demanding more of your time than you're comfortable giving, there's a good chance that trouble lies ahead. One of the early signs of abuse is when you're kept from spending time with friends or staying in touch with family. It can be subtle at first, usually in the form of a mild guilt trip for wanting to do something besides spending time with them. As the relationship progresses, it can escalate to flat out denying you of having friends or moving you away from family, making contact that much harder. If you're faced with conflict every time you want to do something with someone other than your significant other, you may need to face the fact that this form of control can easily lead to abuse.

4.You're treated like a servant rather than a lover - Relationships should be equal. That doesn't mean you don't occasionally get something for your significant other, or do something for them because you want to. It means that they do the same for you and appreciate what they get in return. If the person you're dating tends to order you around, demand your time and service, or berate you for not jumping to their beck and call, there's a possible future of emotional abuse under their controlling ways.

I hope this helps!

Based on your information, I would say no, it doesn't have the early earmarks for abusive relationships. However, he sounds quite needy and that could be a red-flag for trouble in general. The kid question is really benign. That sounds like he was just asking about her interests - what made her tick. Hopes and dreams and all that. Meeting the parents may not have any significance at all to him other than they are important to him and he's invited her over. Perhaps he spends dinner every xxxxx with his family? Moving in sounds harmless too. Is your friend the type to complain about her current living arrangements? Perhaps he was just trying to help her out. As for the weekend in Vegas, I think that would be a bad idea unless she has the money to get home and out of there and a backup safety plan in place. ...and still I wouldn't do it. Ultimately, all of this is in your friends hands. Even if it WERE a potentially abusive relationship, unless your friend really has her head together and will listen to others about her relationships, she's going to do what she wants to until such time as she gets out of that phase. Stick by her even if she does something dumb...eventually, she'll snap out of it and need all the love and support you can give.

RED FLAGS! 2 weeks and he's already telling you to shut up? My fiance and I were together a year when he told me to shut up, once it happened I gave a warning and I have yet to hear him say anything mean like that to me. He sounds really aggressive hun and if your uncomfortable now while he is, i suggest you back out. You should be able to comfortable around him 24/7 not just when he's not being physical with you. This probably isn't the answer your looking for, you must like this guy somewhat. If this was me I would be telling myself I deserve better and this isn't goin to go anywhere. Good luck I hope you find the happiness your seaking

okay consider me young/ not experienced enough but i think what he is trying to do is to get u in the mood, the fact that he stops means that he respects you and is not trying to take over your life(control you

)since the relationship is just starting it makes it is harder to make a prediction on whats to come later, u s but for now i don't think he is being aggressive is just a natural way to seduce a woman(there are many ways). you should also express the fact that u don't enjoy the way he "handles" you when u guys make out.Communication is the key in any sort of relationship.Talk more about the relationship. also the facts that he holds u tightly(not necessarily the point were you are gasping for air)means that he is passionately kissing your soft lips, is the natural connection both of you Create by hugging and care sing each other.But more importantly talk about it and he might just change his ways, if he gets mad or upset then u should star worrying ,but if he understands then that means that you are both paving the way to a healthy relationship

Not necessarily. He does stop when you tell him to and it sounds like besides the kissing he isn't aggressive with you. It could be that he's inexperienced or the last person he was with liked it this way. You need to tell him what you want and how he needs to change. Otherwise he isn't going to understand that there is a problem.

But, if nothing improves you should just break up. You have to be physically compatible with the men you date.

I wouldn't get rid of him just yet if you really like him. He may be an aggresive lover. If it turns you off then there probably isn't much of a future there. It has only been a couple of weeks though. Take some time to get to know him and then things will become clearer.

if you really love him you must talk to him seriously about that habit maybe it s his way to show you how much he loves you by keep you tight and kiss you with strong and another way that s maybe a sign of the king of person he is someone possessive and brutal. Be careful to know before going in the next step

Honey you had better run for the hills. For someone that has only been dating for 2 weeks, you are already in trouble. You don't need any abuse from a man. Don'tt look for father figures. You have already got a dad.

Yes get rid of your b/f sounds as if it could be the start of a very abusive relationship.

No it dosnt seem abusive if he's stopping he's respecting ur wishes to not seem like he's hungry for you but seems like he just wants to get in your pants ..