cant cope with life and tantrums :(?

I have no expertise, but might give advise when it's asked for.

I am a single dad that has two kids full time and run my own business full time.

First off, you are not alone. The daily routine of wake kids, wash their stuff, feed them, clean them then send them to school is a duty shared by many of us. Accept it - it doesn't go away.

I'm not sure of your particular circumstances, but my experience is that kids might play up at night if they are over-tired (not going to bed early enough) or if they are picking up on adult tensions in the house. As I said, I don't know your circumstances and might be totally wrong. My kids used to play up, fight and yell every night. Now I am divorced and the kids live just with me, there has only been two raised voices in the house in the last five years (yes, I can count them).

I would never suggest not to stop working so much (I work a lot), I would suggest looking at if you have any tensions (financial or whatever) that your kids are seeing.

On another side, never lets the kids be the boss. They will yell if they think you have made a decision against them and think you but will give in if they yell enough.

My daughter has night terrors, where she will wake up screaming loud as she can in the middle of the night. These last anywhere from one hour to three hours. It is so hard when she does this bc I end tired the next day, and she won't stop screaming while she's having them. It's like a midnight tantrum. I didn't know what to do at first and my husband works out of town and has never woken up with the kids at night so when he is home I have to deal with the night terrors bc neither of them are used to him being up at night like that.

My best advice would be to be patient, no matter how tired u r, and no matter how ridiculous she is acting, just be patient, speak calmy, and if she is hurting herself hold her, don't ignore her but ignore the screaming and crying. I know its hard but I have learned to pretend to be patient. Lol I know it sounds crazy but if u say all the right things (its ok, I love u, I understand u r upset dear, etc) and do all the right things (hold her, rock her) then she doesn't know that u really just want to go back to bed. It's the biggest acting gig u will get in this life.

So how are you responding to her tantrums? I can't imagine a tantrum lasting 90 minutes.

If they're "killing you" imagine how they feel to a small child. All I see mentioned is "letting her scream" which obviously isn't working for you. Have you tried empathizing with how she feels, labelling her feelings, comforting her, changing the scenery?

How old is she? Does she speak well enough to tell you what's wrong? Is there some way you could change your bedtime routine to make it more pleasant for her?

It is ok to let them cry it wont hurt her and its not neglect unless u are just ignoring her just because, as long as shes not screaming cuz shes hungry or thirsty or actually needs something. im not sure how old your child is but depending on the age you should be able to find out why shes screaming. is it a pointless scream? is it cuz she never gets to see mommy and she wants to spend more time with mommy? is it cuz she does it at the daycare and they let her get what she wants when she does? im no expert but i do have a child, shes turns 2 in a couple of weeks, i usually dont have much screaming out of her but when she does i do what i can to figure out why and if there is no reason and shes doing it to be mean then i just let her scream, but usually while i let her scream i put her in her crib with some toys and just let her scream. sometimes when its bedtime and i cant get her to stop crying but i know she needs to go to bed i get her up after letting her try and cry herself to sleep for about 20 mins then i rock her until she at least acts like shes ready to go to sleep or actually falls asleep, then i lay her down and sometimes she will start crying again but then after about that 10 mins goes by she falls asleep. i hope that helped, just remind yourself you love her and it will be ok.

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