What can I do in this relationship now?

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Ok this is the first question I've asked on yahoo, but I'm getting pretty desperate for advice at this point. I've been dating this girl for about 8 months now...and I don't know what I'm doing anymore. I feel like a created one of the worst situations possible in a relationship. Let me explain: At first it started off nicely, went smooth and stayed interesting for quite a while. Until the point where she told me she was falling for me, and this made me a bit tense because I felt like I should have been as well. So after a while she asked me face to face why I was going out with her, and I knew that she had fallen for me, so I thought maybe if I said it I would feel like I loved her. Now its just eating me up. 

         Its been a couple of months since I said it and now its been almost everyday since then where I've had to say it because naturally she'd expect me to, and I dont love her, I definetly know this now....and I feel completely crap because I'm playing with her feelings without meaning to. She's asked me many times if I really love her, and to be honest its pretty obvious that I don't but every time she asks I say yes, because I don't want to break her heart. She's been completely supportive and trys her best with me, and up until about a month ago i was also trying my best to make her happy. And now I feel like I resent her because I'm constantly lying about the way I feel and I don't know how or what I should say to her, because no matter what I'm going to break her heart and she doesnt deserve that and to be honest I'm scared of what would happen to her.

              I know that she loves me and I wish I did too, but I don't and I'm beginning to hate myself for that. So basically now that you've read this, and I realize that it may be a bit confusing to understand and I may sound like an ********, I really didnt mean for it to get this far when we first started dating. 

My question is what should I do about this? How would you deal with this situation? I'm looking for realistic advice please I need to have an idea of what the right thing to do should be

Rachel · Accepted Answer

Honestly, just tell her the truth. Tell her exactly what's going on. I know it will be really hard for you but it is important that you do it. There's no way around it, because no matter how you look at it, she's gonna end up hurt. But there's no sense in holding it in any longer if it's only escalating. But you could either say something now while you still can, or drag it out longer and let the pain and guilt build up. The longer you wait though, the harder it will be for the both of you. That's just how i see it.. hope that helps some

rosebeckjr · Answer

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What can I do in this relationship now?

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