those of you with aspergers / autism how do you find you get on.......................?

I am thinking when seeing this Q,that ppl with AHDD belong in this category.I can spot them out as well.My son is diagnosed with this & he is poster child for it.I know certain foods ad to the difficulties as in the hypertension part of it.You should add this to the equation in my opinion.These ppl are to me very psychic and have more inner energy if u follow.I no their something special about them.Perhaps when asking these sorts of Qs ahdd should be in the mix. right? idk..cause im not familiar with the others as much.

I just found out I have Asperger's and I think it's funny I found this question. I remember you answering a question I posted in philosophy (before I understood that I had AS), in which you made little to no sense, didn't actually understand the question and answered in snide, nasty, jealous sounding rants lol. I didn't like you and didn't feel challenged at all and you didn't seem much interested in actually exploring the issue presented. But...that's my observation of the situation and perhaps isn't correct.

I'd have to say though, that I do really appreciate a lot of answers I get on Asperger's questions by other Aspies, and feel really understood for the first time, so that's definitely something that would have to be factored into this, but it seems two people with AS wouldn't so much pursue each other, and it would take circumstances that might not be typical to bring them together and keep them interacting.

Mostly, I'd have to say that if people didn't pursue social contact with me, I probably would never leave the house and never meet anyone, Aspie or not. The only times I have been social is when I find someone who is quite the opposite of myself, and who challenges me to be social. So in real life, I tend to have friends with different personalities but who still understand what it's like to be ostracized, and different from mainstream. I think this would tend to be a general rule, in my not so versed opinion.

Even on the computer I think I tend to like people with strong personalities, and strong opinions linked with logical, factual, passionate personalities, who bring out social interaction in me, and because of this trait, I'm sure they don't have Asperger's. So, my answer to this is that people with AS do not tend to like people more just because they have AS.

I tend to flip around and barely have anything easily defined as an obsession, despite having OCD as well as AS. However, others may disagree, and cited cases would have included Myspace in 2006, Yahoo Answers throughout 2007, followed by Facebook, and then from 2009 onwards, I have been logged into the Internet Relay Chat protocol 24/7. However, common themes emerge, including religion and seeking a definition for myself in as many different ways as possible. It is indeed interesting to me that after having fallen out of the habit of being plugged into the R&S category on here, I created my own religion, and then went onto the trail of being diagnosed, which brought me into an online community of fellow aspies on IRC (I have no patience for forums, as I have a habit of reloading every few seconds and getting frustrated at the hours passing by just reloading and waiting for responses), where i've stayed since. I have many labels, no matter where I look. Although each and every one fits me like a glove, I still think there's more to be found. I guess a human being just cannot be defined. Other things I've been told I obsess over are the moon and the sun, the seasons, geology and charity work that I do. Well, the latter did have me visiting the European Parliament and meeting with some of the MEPs, so I think that's more pride than obsession. ((((hugs)))) ~Loving Light~

I get along pretty well with other aspie and auties-a lot better than I seem to get along with NTs-and the neat thing is when you are talking to a fellow aspie/autie you are not expected to make eye contact-which is very uncomfortable for me and there is a understanding that is lacking most of the time when talking to an NT person.

Often, but not always.

The ability to understand perspective and issues can be good, both ways, but sensitivities can be tweaked even more than with the the average Joe Public.

And an obsessive special interest you don't share can be *really* boring. Now *there's* practicing of social skills!

I volunteer with two youth groups for teenagers on the autistic spectrum, and find it more fun that hard work, though it is tiring: very much functioning on high alert.

But being able to connect with teenagers who have had virtually no-one understand them before (sometimes), that's just too valuable to let even tough moments get in the way.

It is pretty much the same as always. people whom dont know about maspergers,most people don't, tend to dog us out. However, as a n old survivor, (60 years old), i can spot aspergers instantly. I know how to treat these people. They simple to have a sack full of nervous tics. I simply take them into my confidence. Thety react well, to any stimuli not coming from the unknowing. I teach them how to deal with their own self awareness, and educate them on just what the medication is for, etc. I get along well with aspergers. I have always had the job in the faminy business, of troubleshooting for the public relations department. I was always the first wave of public relations. So i have had a great many unwanted opportunities to develop.

I've only met a handful of other people on the spectrum. There are a couple that I have really connected to, but others that I don't really like. In general, I do like them better than NTs, but that might be because I have more positive expectations. I can generally relate to them better than I relate to NTs. There are some people that I like but don't actually enjoy talking to. Sometimes that's because we have nothing in common beyond a diagnosis, and sometimes that's because we have some of the same social weaknesses, like talking too little.

I get along much better with other aspies and auties than NT's. Our communication styles usually go well together. There are a few that I don't like but its' usually for other reasons that don't have to do with AS.

Over the internet, I get along pretty well. I mostly communicate though email. It gives me time to think of my response. I get along with aspies just as well or better than I do with NTs.

face to face I don't get along well with other aspies or auties. I haven't met that many though.

I think it's a combination of seeing things in them that I hate in myself, and having two people with communication problems try to communicate. It's difficult to listen to someone talk about their "obsession" when it is different from mine. It makes me feel horrible sometimes that I ask people to deal with things in me that I have trouble dealing with in others.

for me personally, not always. i haven't met many but it just seems to vary so much.

i've met some who i got along completely perfectly with. others, especially one i've met, have been So much more assumptive than i ever thought possible of anyone who's "supposed" to think at least somewhat like me, so much that i still wonder if he lied about having AS, actually.

others i've met, including that guy, have just been rude. not the kind of rude neurotypical people may interpret something aspies do as rude, either, just plain rude. on purpose. unless he Was lying, before i met him i assumed i'd get along a lot better with aspies period just due to similarities, but apparently not.

but, others i really have gotten along with well. with the few i have, overall, it does seem like for me personally there's less of an automatic front. i can just act how it comes naturally for me and not worry about them taking things the wrong way or anything like that.

but, i can also do that with a few of my friends and my husband and they're completely neurotypical. they just do try to understand my point of view and everything even if i'm basically unable to understand theirs. past just the general first reactions, i think it completely depends on the person themselves, regardless of whether they're on the spectrum or not.