My dad hit me? What should i do? (long question, sorry)?

Your entire family is in need of serious help. The family is severely dysfunctional, and your father has a problem with anger and rage. He needs help. You are a child. Your job is to do your studies, get good grades in school, and prepare yourself for college.Your job is not to take care of your brother, or anyone else. Your dad hitting you is WRONG. At no time should anyone put their hands on anyone else for ANY reason at all. You seem to mention "ARGUING" a lot. As if it is part of your everyday life. It shouldn't be.

People TALK things out, and solve problems without arguing, raising their voices, and without hitting.

To hit a girl/woman across the face is humiliating and abusive. And, it is 100% WRONG.

Your father wasn't apologizing, his guilt got the best of him for hitting you, because he knew it was wrong. I have the feeling you live in England or somewhere, but here in the U.S. Children and Youth Services would intervene, and offer your dad and you some counseling. It is not your job to "cheer your dad up". You sound like the "caretaker" in this scenario, and it is very unhealthy. You need to speak to a teacher at school, or guidance counselor, and get people who are educated on family problems involved with this. You're right, this is no way to live. Sounds like everyone in your family needs some therapy, and guidance. You should get to church too. The only way things are going to change, is if you change them. You've got to start somewhere. Do it today. Tell your dad his behavior is unacceptable, and you will NOT accept it anymore. Stand up for yourself. The law is on your side, not your dad's. He's the adult. Yes, he's been through a lot, but you have too. Take heed to my words. I've been there. Good lluck.

If you do nothing. Nothing will change. It will not get any better. Do something about it today.

You should call and tell Sophie. It is not right at all for your dad to do anything like that, not even once. Sophie will then probably call (if you ask her) a child protection service so that you don't have to deal with the stress of it (with all you've been through) so that nothing like this happens again, and you can live with her and have a happier life. If you tell your dad, he will probably understand (i don't really know what your dad is like though) but you should also tell him after you've done everything because then he might just start yelling at you. if you do it in advance, then it is already done and he won't be able to change your mind. Tell him that you love him, but think that this is the best thing to do for both of them.

hey honey

wow it really looks like you are going through a really hard time :(

my dad used to beat me up when I was younger and my parents always said stuff to make me think its normal and okat but when I turned 18 I have realised that it was wrong and considered abuse.

I remember after the last time he beat me up I ran away and they got all worried and I told my dad to his face that I know what he is doing to me is WRONG and no matter how many times he is going to deny it it is always going to stay with me and hurt me. I still remember his face expressions. I love my dad very much but I guess just liek your dad he just snapped and couldnt control his anger. after I told him how I felt about him hitting me like that that was the last time he ever did it. I think he finally realised himself what he has been doing.

I think you should do the same, but obviously your dad seems to be hurting too, probably going through depression. I thinnk you should tell him this in a different way then. tell him you want to talk to him, no screaming no arguing, and make sure its at a good time when he is in a better mood. tell him how your upset about what happened and how you dont think its right for him to do that etc etc. also try and be there for him more to cheer him up sometimes. maybe you should go to family therapy/ or just alone therapy, i think it would really help after what you have all been through i think you are all trying to deal with it in a completly different way.

good luck with everything xx

May I suggest you go live with Sophie.. let me tell you one thing his apologies are BS. He is a grown man and he thought it was ok to hit a 14 year old child in the face. Let me repeat, u are not responsible for the house or his emotional well being..U are not the adult.

U should have called the Police.. Go to a school councillor and explain to them what is happening.

Im 14 and i just wish i could get you out of there. Yes he is your dad and at the end of the day you will always love each otherr, but from love you make sacrifices. You need to tell someone, a teacher, a doctor, a child line, just someone who can help. Call your cousin and tell her, tell your dad you love him alot and always will no matter what, then get the person you tell to talk to him and get you out of there. you are not your brothers mother and he should grow up and take responsibility, you should not have to go through this. If you ever need someone to talk to you can email me, kokikki@yahoo.com , x

Wait a few days, then read your question when you are not emotional. I think you may see a pattern of you provoking and escalating arguments. You, your brother and your father have all experienced a horrible loss and you all need to heal. Try to be understanding. Your father is under tremendous stress, don't add to it.

All three of you should do what you can to promote peace and harmony in your home. Don't push your father or try to mother your brother. They need a little time and a lot of understanding to resolve their own feelings.

it sounds like your dad is depressed but you shouldn't put up with this abuse try making him feel

better does he drink alcohol if that don't work then you may have to call the police try taking him to a

threpsit.

well that is abuse.. no matter how often it happens... and maybe you should call CPS. or the next time he does something like that tell him you will be calling 911/CPS and he gets no more chances.

Talk to him, that is key. It does sound like depression. Talk to a Doctor about it. I wish you well, and good luck. :)

these things will pass if you do nothing about them