Personality Disorders: not all bad?

Not at all. The only one I'd consider 'bad' is antisocial personality disorder APD (psychopath). While others, histrionic for instance, can, at times, be quite entertaining to watch (but also very annoying - lol). You've just got to live with it and understand that ppl with PDs have a problem - and in many cases can't help it. That's not a bad thing at all, its who they are. They're being themselves and, in my opinion, that can never be a 'bad' thing. Annoying or unlikable maybe, but not bad. Plus, there are meds that can help w/ some of the side effects of some PDs.

I dont have any psychology schooling, but heres my thoughts. They arent very fact based (at all actually) but hey, they might help.

If you think about it, dont narcessists tend to take control of things and kickass in the world? I mean, why should someone "fix" that if it leads to being succesful? For one thing, it doesnt always, and thats why narcesists also hate the world and most people in general.

Lets take two people. One, like you described, was deprived of praise and attention at a young age. His grades were near failing, but (I wont go into detail, because Im making this up) it motivates him to work hard, and he turns around at the end of his life and says "Thats right, I invented the cure for cancer, and you people called me stupid." or, "Thats right, I became the president of the United Stated and ushered a golden age of world peace, and the school system actually failed me at a young age." or one of favorates, "Thats right, I lead the Kansas City Chiefs to the superbowl, and I was cut from my highschool football team." and of course "Im the POPE, you said I was ignorant and morally wrong, but Im the POPE, thats higher then then king bitches!" (Hopefully we dont get that guy as Pope)

The other, endured similair circumstances. His grades in school were crashing, and instead of working to bring it up or accepting his failure and moving on, he curses the system as unfair, blaming it and people for his problems. He winds up learning how to hack the schools computers to change his grades (instead of bringing them up), and justifies cheating his school because it cheated him, except it didnt, and you cant hack your way through the world. "Will you marry me?" "What's your proffesion?" "I steal credit card numbers!" Unfortunately, if he wants people to see him as top dawg with his money, wife, and power (which he unconditionally and absolutely wants at all costs), he needs to do it the hard way, which he is incapable of doing. Somewhere along the line, he gets a wife and a few kids, but loses them when they are sick of being manipulated, Lets saaaaay.... the kids go away when theyre 18 and the wife divorces him, and he never hears from them again. He dies alone, and depressed.

The bottum has the narsesistic personality disorder, and if he was helped at the begining of life he probably would have been very succesful. The top on the other hand, has some narsesistic traits in him.

You see, theyre are many reasons one can be failing school, some like to think the only ones are stupidy and laziness, but in reality, there are plenty of smart and energetic people whose grades hit the tank. Why, do you think, would that man go through all that trouble and work to learn to hack, (which, I repeat, is NOT and easy thing to do, especially if your doing so from scratch. Heres how the conversation will go when he goes onto the hacking forum. "How to I hack?" "Open command prompt and-" "Whats that?" *facepalm* "gtfo noob.") instead of just doing homework and studying for tests? Because its not that simple.

Now, the difference between the two is that one used his failures and critizism to enhance himself, and instead of disregaurding everyone as idiots who dont understand, he worked hard to prove them wrong. The other, well, you know. One other thought to consider though, is that narsesist number one is modivated by revenge, and he probably suffered a great deal in his life.

In conclusion to this rediculously long answer, theres is a difference between what you described, and someone with a "disorder".

many with so-called disorders are very popular people they can engender enthusiasm and interest and start conversations with strangers. when murders are commited by 'normal' people which is the majority the distinction is never empasized in reports by media as in the rare cases with pd it is clearly emphasized

I wouldn't call it a personality disorder, but another word, such as trait. Insurance money makes everything a 'disorder'. People are different, people are people, not disordered.