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How do I get my baby to stop scratching and pinching me? Its getting serious!?
My 11 month old has this (what I hear is common) habit of pinching and scratching my chest. Its not an aggressive thing, but more of an affection thing. The problem is that she does it so much that my chest is now covered in scabs (seriously).
I've tried every piece of advice I could google, and nothing is working. I move her hand and say "no" firmly. I wear higher cut tops (she just pulls them down as soon as I let my guard down). I try to swaddle her hands when possible, but that often makes her fuss like crazy. I try distracting her. She will always find some way to scratch/pinch me once my guard is down. Now she's even started to pick at the scabs when I am not paying attention (I carry her a lot).
I am desperately hoping someone out there has some unique advice that can help me, because I am at my wits end. Its getting hot outside, and I have to wear scarves everywhere to cover up all of the scabs. Just typing this makes me want to cry. I love my daughter, but this habit of hers is making me bananas.
9 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Where possible every time she pinches or scratches you put her down. She'll soon associate scratching/pinching with being put down. It will take perseverance though. Good luck.
- 1 decade ago
She has to learn limits and you are lucky she is this young. She continues doing something you have told her not to previously, it seems you haven't gained her respect yet. Make her understand she is not doing the right thing. Just distracting her, holding her hands and talking to her firmly is not working for her. How about sitting her on a safe place every time she does it? That way she'll know there will be a distance because of what she is doing. Talk to her very firmly, more than you're doing it. Not to the point to scare her, but almost. Then sit her on a safe place and leave her there still explaining while she is sitting and listening. It is ok if she cries a little, she will thank you for the rest of her life. You are losing control over this when she is not even 1 year old, imagine to control her when she is 14.. She has to learn to listen and respect you and others since now. Good luck!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Um, if my kid did that, I'd say "OW! THAT HURTS!" loud enough to shock her a little bit, and then put her down and don't pick her back up for a little while. If she does it again, repeat. I'd also pretend to be "injured" and kind of sad, not overly dramatic or anything, but enough to where she sees that this has a bad effect on people. When they're that age, kids don't realise that pinching someone HURTS. But if you don't SHOW them then they'll be the ones who are hitting and biting when they're three.
- 1 decade ago
Play with her hands, so when she goes to pinch you, take her hand and do round the garden or some other hand game. Another trick is to take her hand and show her how to touch you gently. My 17 month old pinches and we always try and show him gentle, especially when he goes to pinch one of his siblings. His pinching really hurts and I never had it with the other two, so I am still working on it. If he really hurts me which occasionally he does I put him down (this worked for biting, which another of my children did) so I am hoping it also works for this.
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- 1 decade ago
I hated that stage, my daughter was a nightmare for scratching and biting! I found that saying ow and pretending to cry then refusing to play with her til she gave me a kiss better worked fairly well
Is there a time your daughter is worse? because my little girl used to do it a lot when she was trying to doze off in my arms so i taught her to stroke my arm instead, does mean shes now half convinced im a puppy but its better than the scratching
- 1 decade ago
Clip her nails often. A light swat on the hand with a firm no might do the trick Or make her wear gloves until she grows out of this stage.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
scratch/pinch back. legit,.