co-worker is rude and gives dirty looks?

I wouldn't say anything when she acts like this. When you have to interact with her just be professional. There's no point is asking why she acts like this as she is probably not going to give you an answer, or an honest answer, anyway. In the workplace there is always going to be someone like your co-worker. You need to develop a thick skin and blow off her snotty attitude. It's not worth the anxiety or the worry.

Snowdrop is spot on. She maintains power over you this way. Ignore her nastiness. She'll have to pay the bill sooner or later, as people like this tend to commit social suicide both in the office and privately.

I've known so many people like this, a surprising amount women. When ever I get an uncool reception that is gratuitous and unnecessary and someone just showing their ***, I simply put the brakes on their value as a friend. They aren't one, and must be accommodated as such.

Your best defense is utter professionalism. Remember, she's slowly committing social suicide. The knitting circle that she's running with now likely despises her behind her back. It makes working with some American women particularly unpleasant.

I remember a program director who was Absolutely insufferable. Just looking at her was unpleasant, even though every one knew deep down inside she was a Human Being. Instead, what most people got was a loathsome bytch. Well, that went on for whole careers, but then one day she developed a palsy in her face that twisted it, the way the late actress Bette Davis' face was twisted after her stroke.

Suddenly, despite being only 40+, she was ill and needed everybody's cooperation. She had to eat humble pie to get it, and watching this was an excruciating thing to get a whiff of every day when you had to interact with her, or see her interact with others whom she's been uncool to. Utterly pathological tendency, incidentally.

Even without a good dose of Humble Pie, you can always remember to take smug satisfaction in her periodic fashion disasters.

By intimidating you she gets control over your relationship. She might even enjoy the feeling that you are intimidated by her, that is why she keeps giving you dirty looks and makes snotty remarks. The best way is to ignore her and smile all the time when she says something smart. It works! She will be so mad at first that her stupid behaviour is not working. After a while, she will stop doing it and will have a better attitude.

You teach people how to treat you. If you accept this poor behavior you are saying "it's OK that you treat me poorly and disrespectfully." I have confronted people with whom I work when they give me a dirty look or seem ticked-off at me or said something inappropriate by simply asking what I did to deserve that look/remark. We can usually talk it out and move past whatever the issue was. The other poster was right too. Some people just like to intimidate those they perceive as weak.

If she doesn't want to talk to you, then don't talk to her. If you have to interact with her because of business, just stick to whatever business it is, and get it over with. If she is still catty during those times, ask her why. Then, she'll either answer you honestly, or say that nothing is wrong and realize you aren't a pushover to be disrespected because she'll know you'll call her on it again if she acts rude.

Not everyone is going to like you. It truly doesn't matter why. Deal with it. Work related interactions should be kept on a professional level with this person.

Nothing. In fact don't say anything to her, she is nasty and tryna be intimating to you. You don't deserve that. In fact when she gives you another dumb look just ask her "what is your problem?"

I would annoy her and give her a big smile when she acts that way. do not let her know that it bothers you

Give it right back to her ... Then maybe she'll grow up and stop .........................