Why doesn't my fiance doesn't have any interest in helping plan the wedding?

I have no idea. My partner is equally as interested as me, and wants to be involved in every decision. It's not a "guy thing". Men are perfectly capable of being as interested and excited for their marriage as women!

"whatever you want as long as it makes you happy." <~~~~~ Every time your guy tells you that, I want you to KISS HIM !!

He doesn't show that much interest in the minutae of planning your wedding because HE'S A GUY!!

Guys don't care. There - I said it!

He doesn't have an opinion on the flowers because he doesn't know that much about flowers to begin with, so he's happy to let you have WHAT YOU WANT. He could go either way on the flavor of the cake because he's not that attached to either ... so he would rather that you have WHAT YOU WANT. He's not that worried about the color scheme, the invitations, the this, the that, the other, because HE'S A GUY, and guys DON'T CARE! They're not hard wired for this kind of stuff, and the sooner you wrap your brain around this concept, the happier your marriage will be.

It's not that he doesn't care AT ALL - he DOES care that he has a wedding .... but at the end of the day, this is ALL he needs to know (write this down):

Date of wedding

Time of wedding

THAT IS ALL he really needs to know. The rest ... doll, just do what you want!

This will also apply for other things in your future. TRUST ME when I tell you that, if something comes up that matters, HE WILL TELL YOU. Until that happens, it's all good :D

Woman to woman, just relax and be grateful that he's not just like you, or you'd never get anything done because you'd argue over every difference of opinion. You have N O T H I N G to complain about!

Don't forget - the next time he tells you "whatever you want as long as it makes you happy ..." what are you going to do??

:D

News flash- GUYS DON'T CARE! Very few fiances are highly invovled in the planning. They just aren't. It's normal! A suggestion- talk about the overall feel. Does he want something elegant, or a big kegger party. For the details, put together 3-4 options and present them to him. Let him decide from those choices.

He's not going to pour over every detail. But if you give him some choices, and a few responsibilities- like planning the honeymoon, deciding the menu with the caterer, etc- he may be more willing to help. You have to tell him exactly what you want him to do!

How would you feel if he was rebuilding an engine and wanted you out in the garage with him for hours eyeing each piece and giving a heartfelt opinion on each teeny tiny piece? Would you care? Would that mean you loved him any less? Some guys care about this stuff,some don't. Don't force him. My husband has always been like that and my sister's husband is the exact opposite. As the years have gone by, I have come to appreiciate mine more. I get to do the house as I like. I scope out big purchases like a couch, shop for a month and get it down to two or three and then ask for a final opinion. Sometimes he cares, sometimes not. My sister's husband is kind of opinionated about every little thing and honestly, I think it would get on my nerves now. Love him for who he is, sweetie.

Oh, honey! You'd better get used to this way of life..cuz that's just the way men are! Details for a wedding are the last thing on his mind, and he REALLY doesn't care! Don't expect things to change once you're married, because they won't! Men will always be boys at heart, and leave the important details up to whatever mommy they can latch on to! ;-)

History will show that weddings are always the bride's day. Men know this. It's a guy thing not to get involved. It does not mean that he does not care, it means that he doesn't want to get in the way of your day. I know way back when i got married, I stayed away as much as I could. I'm sure that if you told him you really want his input, he would give it.

My husband was involved in the planning of our wedding.

I think it is different with every guy - some guys are interested and some are not.

Perhaps your guy is not interested in the planning.

Try to get a family member or trusted friend to work with you on the details.

Don't worry about it - the important thing is that you are getting married.

Peace.

this happenned to friend:BELIEVE him when he says do what makes U happy!he means it!to him it is the knowing from then on you´ll be his wife and that you´ll be together.period. to a man the colors:soft pink,velvet pink and whisper pink mean THE SAME and REALLY,REALLY does not want to know the difference(WHICH I KNOW is very important to us girls!).

and get used to this:men don´t recall or care about details(except futball,golf,cars).they care about the whole finished package of things(YOUand your outfits,hair etc included).just get used to this idea which will make your life easier.they just don´t get excited over(important!)choices such as:glittery-gloss or just gloss-gloss,tinted or boldly colored gloss etc.know you will now have to make a lot of decitions on your own,always keep his preferecences in mind(at the end he´ll be so used to what you chose he´ll star to like that too!)but do what is better for the both(wholewheat bread and real cheese-not from the can to start with)

just enjoy your day,don´t nag.and just keep in mind things will be different from now on,beautiful but different!

allocate certain tasks for him to organise like transport, alcohol and cake. You might have to be willing to let go of some control and go with whatever decides. That is why we are having a massive castle for our cake. I quite like the idea, but it wouldn't be my first choice :)

I think a lot of men choose to steer clear of the wedding planning, thinking that the woman wants to take control. Be happy that he isn't one of those controlling men who has to have everything the way he wants it. He really doesn't care, he means it.