Is my son becoming the annoying neighborhood kid?

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My new neighbor behind me just told me that it's best if my son doesn't come over anymore. He apparently pushed her son off the tree, and his son punched him in the face. He was nice about it and acknowledges that boys will be boys but I assume he also doesn't want the liability. There isn't alot of kids his age in this neighborhood, and I've only recently met this family. My son has been bored lately (esp with his best friend being grounded all week). He has been going over to my other neighbor's house (also behind me) to play. I told him not to ring their door bell but if he see them outside playing, he can ask if he can play...but now I'm weary of the fact that his daily presence may be annoying to the other parents. I've read too many forums about people complaining about neighborhood children coming over everyday. My son doesn't like playing independently and loves being active with other children. This subdivision doesn't have hardly any parks within walking distance or children his age. We're also moving and I can't sign him up for any extracurricular activities, so I'm at a lost.

Jennifer B · Accepted Answer

Yep, if you've been told to not have your son come over anymore, he's become that annoying neighborhood kid, for whatever reason.  Maybe they think the boys have gotten too violent with each other.  Maybe their kid is more aggressive playing with your son than with others and they don't like that.  Maybe they feel like they're the ones doing all of the "childcare" because they still think the kids need to be supervised and you don't.

So if you have a kid that needs more interaction, it's up to you to schedule it.  Invite other kids to go to the park with you - yes that means you'd need to drive them and supervise them.  Or invite other kids to come over to your house to play - and then have activities available for them to keep them interested.

Anonymous · Answer

If you are friendly with your neighbors why not just tell them why he is over there so much lately? Tell them what you just told us and things will be fine. Maybe planning playdates would be better too so that they are prepared to have him around. People get into their own family routines and have a hard time changing it suddenly. He or you can invite their kids to come to your house too, even it out.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe they can switch off? Like my little brother and his friends play baseball and basketball in my dads front yard, but when they ride bikes and build ramps they do that over by a kid named seans house. When they play video games it's usually at erics because his mom lets them use the flat screen. They climb this old lady's tree sometimes she doesn't mind. So yeah just have them switch it up so one parent doesnt get annoyed.

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Is my son becoming the annoying neighborhood kid?

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