I've been cutting myself, help?

I used to cut & have a lot of the same feelings so I think I know where you're coming from. First of all, you know how it keeps your mind off of things? That's just a distraction, and it doesn't get you anywhere with solving your problems, which is how you get rid of 'em. They'll just pile up & you'll feel more and more weighed down. Your mom doesn't understand why you would do it (mine didn't either), but you should be thankful that she's being supportive in the sense that she wants to get you a therapist. I used to think that I didn't need one either and it would just be stupid/pointless, but my way of helping myself - cutting, an unhealthy distraction - wasn't exactly "help". Please give therapy a try. It'll be good for you to be able to get your emotions out in an environment like that, and you can confront the source of your cutting: your problems. Cutting might seem like an easier way to cope & you might think that it won't escalate, but it will. It's addictive & you won't be able to have control over it. About quitting, if you really don't want to give therapy a try then when you feel overwhelmed (whether it's with sadness or anger or anything), do something you love instead of cutting yourself. That could be writing, drawing, playing a sport, calling up a friend - anything that makes you happy & gets your mind off of things without hurting yourself. Seem like just another distraction? Well, when you feel the urge to cut the first few minutes are often the very worst cause you feel like you NEED to do it - but by distracting yourself you're able to think more logically about it. You can do better. You don't need to cut, and you can overcome this. I hope you get better soon and if you ever need to talk, I'm here. ♥

Go to therapy. Trust me on this, quitting cutting is the hardest thing ever and you will need help.

Some things you can do to help are having an elastic band around your wrist to snap or squeezing ice when you feel the urge to cut.

Personally I write when I feel the need to cut and that has got me through some pretty tough times. Even with my coping tricks I've been through a long time in therapy. And therapy isn't a bad thing. It is just a tool to help you sort things out.

Seriously, and trust me, you do not want to continue cutting. I've been doing it for 11 years now and I am so covered in scars that wearing a t-shirt in public is out of the question. My arms scare small children. Literally. Don't go down this road when you have the chance to take a different path.

Ask yourself, is it really worth cutting?

I'm sure there's other things that can help get your mind off things. Music for one is a great example of something you can turn to when you're down. If you're not much of a music person though, then find other outlets, just don't cut.

I was like you once, then i just got fed up with being fed up. The more i realised that the way i thought influenced the situations around me, the more i got disgusted with the thought of me cutting myself. I saw it as a weakness and everytime i got tempted to resort to it, i just reminded myself of how weak i'd be if i gave in to it.

Teach yourself to ignore things when they get hard or out of control. If it's something you can't handle, why bother stressing about it? Or better yet, use them to motivate you. Now whenever i'm down, i challenge myself to learning something new on guitar, or i go for a run. Usually just listening to music is enough to remind me that i'm better than whatever's happening around me.

Having said all that, i don't mean that i'm basically a really really happy person, because i'm not. I've just learnt when to give myself a break and say no to certain things.

Goodluck.

Well I also used to cut myself...It helped take the pain away but only for a little while...The best thing i did was talk to someone about it. A therapist wont judge you for why you do it but they will help you find other ways to get rid of stress and pain...The best thing my mom did was taking me to the hospital and they made me talk to a wonderful woman who helped me a lot. I would recommend trying it out and if it doesn't help then you can stop but you don't know unless you try :) I wish you the very best! and if you need anyone to talk to just email me on Y!a :)

It is difficult, to stop doing something that makes you think it helps. But reality is it doesn't help at all, you need to focus your anger and pain on things that make you happy. example would be exercising ( healthy), writing ( therapeutic), Hanging with friends (spiritual and therapeutic). You need to really want to stop in order to stop. So before you answer your own questions. Do you really want to stop?

Yes- then do it

No- wait until you wanna

Go by your mom's advice and get therapy. That's the only way you might be able to be cured. I'm currently depressed myself, and I need help as well. Don't be like me; get help while you can.

Trying to be happy all the time is a stupid thing to strive for. No one is happy all the time, and if thy are, they also live in a padded cell.

Also, stop cutting yourself. It doesn't help anything.

stupid way of reliving stress, why not just go and do something better to take your mind off thing e.g. socilaise, watch a movie, go out with friends, go park etc. i dont inderstand how cutting urself helps take ur mind of things. its not cool. think of later life, in every problem u face r u just gnna go and cutt urself?