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14 Month old and pregnant with #2 - quick question for experienced mommies of multiple children?
My son is currently 14 months old. I'm only 4 weeks along with #2. I know there's no way to guarantee your children will get along. However, I'm curious how you introduced pregnancy and siblings to your other children so it's not as big of a shock after the baby comes along. What did you do to help your little one understand that there's going to be another baby in the mix?
(Of course, he's not going to understand right now - he's a little young. I'm just curious for as he gets older and my pregnancy gets further along.)
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- tryoneverythingLv 410 years agoFavorite Answer
I have alot of experience with having babies close together. :) I have observed that simply including the children in your experiences goes a long way. We would read a lot books. Joanna Cole has some great ones. I also bought a baby doll but they didn't really get into the baby doll until after the baby was born. When he notices that your tummy is round, let them rub your tummy. Another thing you can do it have him around other babies. But mostly just talk about the baby when it's appropriate. It doesn't have to be forced or planned. But let it flow naturally in conversation.
The age your son will be when baby is born is a really good age. It's been my experience that if help him understand in gentle ways that he's not the center of the universe, the new baby won't be a problem. When I say that, I mean simply that he's got to learn to wait in general. Don't give into temper tantrums. If he makes demands, make him stop and ask nicely. Have appropriate discipline and use it long before baby arrives. Create an environment that includes a baby so that the adjustment won't hit so hard. I did this with my 1st and had NO issues when he brother was born. She loved on him so much.
The most important thing you can do is simply include him in this process. He will be old enough when baby is born to help get diapers. I keep a special basket only for baby diapers. My youngest one is the one that gets me the diapers from that basket. I also teach them how to pull wipes out of the box so that they can help change the baby. I will let them "hold" the baby. When I nurse, they are always there reading a book with us or rubbing babies head softly. I include them together as much as possible. When I am not nursing or holding baby, I would place him/her in a bouncy chair and sit in the playroom with my other children while they play. We would color together. it was almost as if baby had always been there.
One last thing. . . DO NOT read books to your son about being jealous of baby. the only thing that will do is set you up to have to deal with jealousy. It's ridiculous the number of books written to help children deal with their feeling when they aren't even aware these feeling exist. The problem is that not alot of children even know to be jealous. We are often the ones that introduce that problem. most children love babies and just simply want to be a part of their entrance into the world. I have 7 children and NONE of them have ever been jealous of baby. We have never talked about being jealous and I have never read books about it. They will clamor for mom's attention sometimes but all children do that. It's not jealousy. It's just human nature to want momma's attention. If the older children don't feel like they have to compete you won't deal with these problems. That's why i encourage you to include him in as much as possible.
Congrats on newly expecting. things will go great. the age your son will be is what I consider the perfect age for introducing new babies. they are still kind of out of it and don't truly know what is going on. It's my favorite age. :)
Source(s): mom of 7, ages 1-12 - 10 years ago
My second daughter was born a month after my 1st turned one. I left work a week before my due date to spend with her. I told her about the baby and included her in picking the new babys clothing and things like that. I also had her feel when the baby kicked. I am pregnant again due in about a month and my children are now 35 months and 21 months but my kids seem to understand way more than any one would think. I just told them strait out when i got pregnant this time i told them at about 8 weeks i did not want to wait till 13 weeks because if i did miscarry i wanted them to some what understand why i was so up set. When i found out the baby's sex i told them her name right away so now they call my belly joyanna and ask it when she will come out so my oldest can change her diaper and swing her in the swing.
Source(s): mom of 2 very close and another coming soon. will be 3,2 and newborn. - Anonymous10 years ago
Try showing him baby ulartsound of the new baby an tell him he is going to have a new sibiling coming that is what I did when my third child came along it is easy when they r older because they no more but since he is only 14months old try the photos of the baby it will work an try to make videos too that always helps too
- ?Lv 45 years ago
It is right that it's not well to continuously difference your infants method, it will probably intent him to have plenty of tummy aches which is not well! We had the identical quandary with my son, and ultimately located a few good fortune so far as tummy aches with Enfamil Lipil with iron. But so long as he's nonetheless having tons of rainy diapers do not fear approximately him now not getting ample meals, it regularly appears like they're spitting up greater than they relatively are. And I do not know approximately your son however them quandary with mine was once simply that the muscle in his throat that closes after the youngster eats wasn't completely constructed (that's absolutely natural) so it wasn't remaining all of the method enabling probably the most meals to come back again up. My son is four months now and spitting up plenty much less. Hope any of this is helping, and dangle in there I'm certain you and your youngster shall be best.
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- 10 years ago
my boys are 14 months apart and it help that I took my son with me to my ultrasound apts so he could see his baby brother when my second son was born my 1st son came into the hospital room went right past me and Straight to his baby brother no hug nothing for me lol yes they fight but they love each other more.
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