Really bad relationship with my mom? Depressed? Help please?

I am so sorry you are having so much trouble! Unfortunately, people like your mother expect their children to be adults too soon. If your mom would agree, you might talk to your doctor about some family counseling. I know you really do want to spend the summer with your boyfriend, but right now it is very important for you to get out of your mother's home, even if it is with your dad. Have you talked with your dad about how you feel, and that you need treatment? Your mother probably has her own mental health problems she is dealing with (or not dealing with) and is just mentally not able to cope with your issues. She is probably angry and frustrated and stressed and worried, and you are the convenient person to take it out on. Please try to be patient, since you do have therapists who want to help. You need to talk to them about your home situation and discuss some alternatives to living with your mom.

As to your testing question, here is a site you need to go to http://home.gwu.edu/~kkid/testing.html. The testing bascially will check you for ADD/ADHD, depression, and learning disabilities. Once they have test results, then they can address your problems and truly begin helping you.

My daughter is 18, so my heart goes out to you and I will be praying for you and your family. Please don't stop working toward getting better and getting help, and know I will be thinking of you.

I'm sorry. I have all the same problems ADD/ADHD, OCD/anxiety, depression, and self injury (except I cut and burned) but I'm prolly younger than you(14). All I can say is don't give up hope. Most people will not understand what you are going through but you are not alone and don't forget that. For hope and information on depression and self injury, go to http://www.twloha.com/vision/ [ to write love on her arms] their stories of hope have helped me alot.

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next time you see your dad say

"if you dont help me with (whatever problem you have) then i am never going to forgive you"

your mom sounds like she is not going to listen to you at all

next time your mom says its a phase tell her that this sort of stuff is not a phase, but a legitimate mental issue.

then tell her the same thing "if you dont help me then when i get older i am not going to forgive you for this"

that is a good weapon to use because parents do not want their adult children resenting them. so tell them that you dont want to resent them when you get older but you might have to if they dont listen to you