Is it really so bad when a wife HATES sex and doesn't want you to EVER touch her?

Not getting married to someone like that would be a "good thing"...if I want to be in a relationship and not have sex, I call that a 'friendship'...no need to legally bind myself to my friends...

Sounds like the wife has issues.. and really should have her head examined.. yeah its pretty bad if there is no intimacy in a marriage.. it definately breaks down the marriage, with out intimacy , u lose the emotional connection .. and once that happens u start to drift apart .. and its only a matter of time .. as far as the c/s thing, well u can look at it this way , if u stay with her because ur trying to avoid c/s payments by not having a child with her.. what about the "alimony " payments ??? lol i guess eventually u get screwed either way.. make sure u have a ciggy handy lol..

If she doesn't want sex with you then the problem has to be with you, not all women contrary to what you read are gagging for sex with anything that wears trousers.

Men are visual when it comes to sex and can get turned on by a picture of a naked woman, they dont need persuading to have sex. Women on the other hand are emotional creatures and like to have lots of attention, tenderness and fun when it comes to sex.

Sex can be almost mechanical with men and thats why they can do it with anyone, it does not matter about love or caring for the other person it just matters that they can unload on a regular basis.

You are not doing what she wants you to do in order for her to have sex, you have to set the scene and prepare for love. Cook her dinner, have a romantic evening alone with each other and just kiss, then let it lead where it will.

I have been married before and can honestly say I was frigid with him, I would carry over any arguments we had that day, I would think about what he said to me or what he didn't say to me and basically I would not have sex because I did not like him.

I am now remarried after divorcing my first husband, and sex now is amazing, its tender, rough, noisy, so much fun, we tease, we flirt and role play. He has opened up my eyes to what sex is all about and I love what we do and I love him beyond words.

She does not love you enough, find out why and instead of "making a move" and expecting her to be panting for it, try going back to your courting days and what you did then.

Personal hygiene is important too dont neglect that, there is nothing more off putting for me.

Answering your title question: Yes, it is bad. Very bad. Being sexual is an important part of the intimacy of marriage.

Have you considered divorce? I think that you'd be happier with some other sexy woman than with this ice princess. Who wants to be married and live celibate? Some might, but you don't sound very happy. Change your reality. You can do it.

If that were me I would divorce her asap. In fact I would not wait. I would separate from her, find a woman who truly loved me and make babies. It just not normal for a wife to scream rape when he is showing her love and affection. Sounds like you married damaged good dude. Peace and good luck.

Wow. Bitter much? I get that you're frustrated. If it's that bad and it can't be helped, get out of the marriage. Sucks rocks, but sometimes you just gotta go. And you deserve someone who is going to love you COMPLETELY.

The rejection maybe due to something you did in the past that she didn't like or can't forget. Maybe you should ask her why so you can sort things out.

It sounds like you're with the wrong lady. Get out of that relationship quick!

Yes your Wife is in control.

There are so many problems with this that I don't know who to feel sorry for.

Any children involved I guess.

And yet, some of us have mastered the art of being able both to have sex AND not get pregnant.