What can I do to get the father excited?

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Last week I found out that I am approximately five weeks pregnant (six weeks by now). I told my partner about it and he did not take it well as we had never planned on having a baby. We had a huge fight and I ended up leaving, staying at my parents' house for a few days. He asked me to come back, but since then, he does and says nothing to acknowledge the fact that I'm pregnant. He knows that I plan on having the baby, with or without him. I had thought that by asking me to come home, he had accepted it and that he would be excited about it, at least a little bit. But nothing.

I have my first proper doctor's appointment next week and I am going to ask him to come with me. I am hoping that hearing the heartbeat for the first time will get his excitement up but I'm scared that it freaks him out even more.

I really don't know what to do. This is supposed to be a happy time but I am so stressed that he gets scared and our relationship ends. 

What should I do?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Being a father to be is not exciting to everyone, my husband wasn't at first but he soon warmed up to idea. Go ahead and take him to the ultrasound and hopefully he will be excited. If not well that's just him, maybe his buddies will talk to him and if he has a good relationship with your father maybe dad and talk to him. For now, talk to him! That is most important. Ask him what could get him excited and if he says nothing then he inst ready for baby and you may need to seek help.

hope it helps. By the way, person who wrote hug him, that is not very helpful, it is quite idiotic if you ask me.

M. · Answer

It takes a lot of men a little time to adjust to becoming a father, especially with an unplanned pregnancy. I am 20 weeks along and my guy is great but he hasn't been very enthusiastic at all about being a dad until today when we found out we were having a little girl. But do not do what I did, I talked a lot about the baby, telling him about all of the developments week by week and basically tried to force him to talk about it and it really put a strain on our relationship. I know it seems very difficult but you have to give him a little bit of time to let the news sink in. Right now, he doesn't see it as a positive thing but don't worry, he will. Leave the option open for him to go to your doctors appointments, but do not make him feel pressured. If you give him the space he needs to cope with the shock and scariness of being a dad so unexpectedly, he will be less stressed and probably come around a lot sooner. Good luck. And ps you won't get to hear the heart beat until about 10 weeks : /

? · Answer

I hear that many fathers are scared at first, which he likely is. As time goes on, he will get more used to the idea and once that child is growing and so are you, he will begin to think about being a father and become very excited. Hopefully all he will need is time.

Best of luck and congrats!!

Anonymous · Answer

I am sorry but he will NOT Come around for you and the baby. If that was his first gut reaction than your relationship is OVER if you are going to have the baby. You will have to have this baby without him because he is really NOT into it. You CANNOT make him get excited.. it is only upto him and if he feels off about it than that is IT.. no one can make anyone do what they dont want to do.

Rachel P · Answer

Give him time hopefully he will come round it is a big change and it can get scary. My husband was the same until he saw the first scan and that was it he couldn't wait then.

Anonymous · Answer

give him a hugeee hugg......and the time will be paused...!!:)

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