How do you get over heart break?

Unfortunately this is the side-effect of any romantic relationship.

You had a man who gave you devotion, who cherished you and showed you love that you thought you would never experience in your life, ever again.

And his wife caught him slipping into your heart, and out of hers. He is in counseling because he wants to keep his kids, which means fixing his marriage.

It sucks that he didn't choose you, but I have to say, he probably led you on a little for the attention he was getting.

Unfortunately this is what happens. It could happen even if both of you were single and he decided one day that you were not future material for him, or it could've been the other way around. You could've been busted and he would've been on the skids.

All you can do is focus on making yourself stronger as a person, look inside and realize that you are good and can move on.

I am certain your emotional partner will never completely move on from this either. It doesn't mean you don't care about each other. Just keep supporting each other if you have to, due to the work situation.

Never feel ashamed of loving someone. Never. You had something special and perhaps in time, that special something will be a friendship you can bank on without the sexual crutch.

In your place, I'd be doing what you are doing.... in counseling.

And yes, what the others have said, and suggested is true.

It may be that when you are in counseling, you will discover that your marriage isn't worth saving. He felt his was, worth saving.

You cannot change what happened, or how you felt, and still feel.

It will be a long healing process particularly since you have to see this guy every day. You might wish to ask your doc for anti-depressants... they help some people, and in others are useless.

There is no way to"get over this".

Time.

And lots of tears.

And do your very best to avoid meeting him in the halls or anywhere in your working or play environment.

This heartbreak is a consequence of you having an extramarital affair. You knew what you were getting into but yet you did it anyway. You can not have your cake and eat it too. You are now stuck in a living hell. The best thing you can do is try to get transferred to another department or location and seek counseling to get through this.

By recognizing that the key to your happiness is yourself! When you decide that you want to be happy again, you will. If you decide to dwell on the disappointments in your life, you will always be disappointed. The key to happiness is giving to others. In that, you may put a smile on someones face or help them in a time of need. Once you experience the joy of that feeling (helping someone else) you will find it easier to handle your own sadness.

If you are genuine, the first thing you must do is change jobs and stop seeing him. If you think you are unhappy how do you think his wife feels ? Leave him alone and concentrate on your own marriage. Then and only then, will you be able to start to achieve some happiness.

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