He's got a double life and not all other males carry that trait... so...?

I'm having a really difficult time with this Jack who claims he wants a relationship. Hes very rare and extremely unclear about his actions. Apparently Jacks father is a undercover police man, and because his father is a police man, Jack and his siblings live a double life (to protect themselves). So because Jack and his siblings must life a double life, Jack expects me to live in secret. I'd rather not get into detail about it but his expectations are way out of the norm. Here's an example, Jack wants to meet up with one of his siblings, but he will not actually say "hey, I'm going to hang out with my sister today", like any other normal conversation. Jack will be completely indirect and intensively hesitant to answers regular questions about when or what time he will be back. I find this very stupid and unfair because I don't need to pretend because I refuse to life in secret. He selfishly did not explain his schizophrenic life to me from the start and he gradually told me all this just recently after all the fighting about all his weird actions... now I'm frustrated because its almost like he forced his fathers life upon me and he expects me to live by it.