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xoxo asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 10 years ago

Why can't my mom trust me? How can i convince her?!?

Okay, so my mom is like cool with the dating thing, she knows that i have a boyfriend.

But when it comes to just hanging out with my friends she's all so paranoid about it.

She's told me a billion times that it's not me that she doesn't trust but is the world.

I get that. But she's telling me that she won't let me hang out any later than 9 (weekends AND HOLIDAYS, so weekdays must be heck lot earlier...) until i graduate. as in HIGHSCHOOL.

I mean, I always arrive home on time when she tells me when she wants me home. I've never done anything stupid, I don't drink, smoke wtv, all that, and I'm in all the advanced classes at school, get decent grades... But she just won't let me do anything.

I'm ALWAYS the first one to leave to go back home to make the curfew when i'm at a party or just a hang-out. I can NEVER stay till the end..

I'm 16, and i mean we all know that I will have to become independent at some point in my life, but she just is too overprotective of me.. It's not like she will be convinced if I get home before curfew.. or do extra chores. I've tried, trust me :/

I mean, I used to just accept her as a protective mom, but now I'm just sick of it and I reallllyy don't want to be "oh, sorry, can't hang out, that's too late" throughout my entire high school..

She sometime makes me want to just run out of the house

Is it possible...?

Is she ever going to change the way she thinks?

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  • 10 years ago
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    I dont mean to be rude but r u kidding me? She loves u so much that she doesnt want anyone to hurt u. Its better then having a mom who doesnt care about u or what u do. And as for staying out late just ask her to take a self defense class or something then maybe shell let u stay out if she believes u can protect yourself. So remember its better to have someone whos cares deeply for u instead of someone who doesnt give a **** about you

  • 10 years ago

    Nope. She's overprotective. It's in her nature. She is more protective of you than other parents are of their children. While she may mellow out as time goes on, you only really have two more years until you come of age and can do as you like. I wouldn't hold out hope of ever failing to be the first person to leave.

    That is, unless you take action. You have the option of directly challenging her by discussing with her, but it's unlikely that this'll make much difference. Your best bet for staying out late is to actively disobey and deceive her. For example, sneak out of the house, lie to her about what you're doing, etc. It's not nice or 'good', but it's what other kids are doing, it's the truth, and most importantly, it's how you can solve your problem.

  • 10 years ago

    Lmao we can SO relate. Im 15 and i have a boyfriend too. except its opposite, she doesnt let me go out with my bf she only lets me with my friends... lol. Well anyways, really there's nothing you can do. Ive tried EVERYTHING. But i realized over time... she will see you mature and become more responsible and she will eventually extend the curfew. thats what happened to me. So all you got to do is let time do it's thing. But also make sure she knows how you feel, tell her exactly that ^ tell her what you wrote. So atleast she knows

    Source(s): Personal Experiance
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    10 years ago

    Just wait until you drive! Is the legal driving age 16 in your state? If not, that kind of sucks, it is for mine. But anyway, her line of reasoning is silly. She should trust you to make good decisions, like who the right people to hang out with are. But seriously, my mom didn't change until I started driving myself everywhere. Maybe you should work on getting a license?

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    Listen to your Mother. you should be happy that she cares so much about you. Yeah.Seems un-fair. Not a lot of kids have parents who care. When you grow up and show your mother how mature you are then she may change her mind.

    Just be LUCKY you can hang out at with friends/

  • 10 years ago

    yu should tell her not 2 worry cuz if she says she doesnt trust other ppl around she pretty much doesnt trust yu cuz if other ppl are doing sumthing stupid it doesnt necessarily mean yu will do it unless she thinks other wise goodluck

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