Crazy stepmother drama, help! Is she mentally ill?

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I know I've posted about my stepmother before, but I'm so lost and confused on what to do. A couple of days ago she was like, "When are you moving out?" When I asked why she said, "I need to know so I can help you move." She never talks to me or acknowledges me, so I knew she was asking me to move out because she's a spiteful person. Yesterday, she asked me again. She started saying how she wants me to move out because "I don't serve the Lord." I'm like, "What are you talking about. I'm in college full time, I get A's in school, I don't do drugs, I go to church, I practice abstinence, etc." She's like, "There's no fruit. If you really loved the Lord you would be discussing him with your friends, you would be starting Bible studies at school, and walking through your dorm room and taking control in Jesus name and praying throughout the halls and at peoples doors." She's insane, I know. She continued on to tell me that she cringes when she sees my car in the drive way, she purposely stays away from home because I'm there, I suck the life out of her, and my presence irritates her because it's this negative ora. I'm like, "What in the world are you talking about? You mope around the house all the time and act miserable, so I try to give you space." She said that the Lord was telling her that she can't have me in the house to protect her family. She won't let me around her children because she's afraid that I will say something bad about her to them, when that's never happened. It makes me so angry because she acts like she's this righteous person who is very obsessed with church, but then she tells me that she can't stand me. I think she's intimidated by strong successful women, because she's never been one. She was angry because my aunt and uncle came into town this weekend and they were asking me about what my major in college is and what I plan I doing when I graduate. I was like, "Why is that a bad thing?" She didn't really have a response, but she complained saying that I'm concerned about money and my career. Nobody even brought up the word money, that just asked me what I want to do when I graduate. Do you think I should tell my father about the conversation? Also, do you think that this could possibly be a mental illness. She always says things like, "The Lord told me" or "The Lord revealed to me." and then follows it up with something crazy.

Update:

4n0nym0u5: Wow I just looked up the narcissistic personality disorder and that sounds EXACTLY like her! She is super controlling. She homeschools her kids because she wants to shelter them from the real world. I also think she's very insecure because she married my father within two months of meeting him, a year in half after my mother died. She was driving her ex fiances truck and living on her mom's couch when they met. For her, it's all about control. Oh, and I don't think my father would ever make me leave because of this.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Psychosis with comorbid narcissistic disorder sounds like a likely diagnosis. Basically she is delusional, this much is clear; but she is also serving to feed her ego under this fascade of hyper-religiousity, then projecting her faults onto you, clearly. However, if she has a relatively controlling personality with the system on her side, you may be at threat, she may even try to use the same arguments against you. I don't think you should actually follow her orders to move out until you're absolutely forced. Do you have any provisions in such a scenario?

LC · Answer

wow. she really is crazy hun. I feel bad =/ but I feel it is an illness as well. Last year I had a guy that changed his religion to Catholic and omg he would praise the lord in class or screaming that we should pray in front of people's faces he didn't even know. I suggest you sit your father down just you and him, and tell him you need to talk about something that has been bothering you.  It's better to just say it now that have it keep bothering you for the rest of the time you living there. Even when you get much older and have a family, you wouldnt want to bring them around. So I suggest you to say something.

? · Answer

Wow, you should absolutely talk to your dad about this. She has no right to make you feel uncomfortable in your own home. Perhaps I could understand if she was simply saying you were in college so you needed to move out... but to make it about religion is ridiculous. 

I'm sorry you have to go through that, but make sure you know what you want  your dad to do about it before you talk to him. Do you want him to tell her to leave you alone, to stop talking to you, to be nicer, to have a family sit down, to kick her out, etc. Don't just complain, go in wiht a purpose and talk to him like an adult. 

Good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

I know how difficult it is to deal with a crazy stepmom.   As hard as it is, try to ignore her.   If she wants to tell you about what the Lord has told her, smile and walk away.  

Make sure to talk to your dad and that he knows what's going on and how you feel.   Don't let your crazy stepmom come between you and your dad.

Amber · Answer

She sounds like she's mental. If you watch tv shows some women say the lord told me blah blah.. Are mental. Tell your dad. He probably wont believe you but its worth a try.

Aman Kumar · Answer

yes u should talk about it to ur father before it goes more serious .

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