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Will i always be alone?
I'm female, 39yrs old, extremely fat, & ugly. I'm not calling myself a BBW b/c there is nothing beautiful about fat. Well, even if I were slim I would still be ugly. I also have a mentally retarded sister (mentally 12 yrs old w/ 5yr old mentality when upset) who I am expected to care for if dad passes.
My best friend's brother told me no man would ever want to be with me unless I weighed 105 lbs, put sister in a special needs home, and got a facelift. I've heard similar in the past from both men & women.
Are they right...alone for the rest of my life?
8 Answers
- 10 years agoFavorite Answer
There is someone for everyone.
- RainstormLv 410 years ago
Do not listen to those jerks. Everyone has someone. look go onto a dating site I mean it helps you find other singles if you really want someone. I think you are pretty. If you a big ( I do not like to say fat) then there is more to love honestly. Work what you got girl. Also if you just wanna look at people, go onto www.myyearbook.com I meet my boyfriend of over 6 months now on there and I am short and every guy I meet said I was only gonna get a guy if I was over 5'0". Stay positive.
- AprilLv 710 years ago
That was a terrible thing for your best friend's brother to say!!! The saying, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is true. Sure, there are people who are critical, but there are also those who see what is important. The worst thing is that you view yourself as fat & ugly. In our community I've seen women who aren't considered very attractive who have handsome husbands. Those men saw things in these women they fell in love with. You don't need a face lift. You need an attitude adjustment...some self esteem. Since you feel so poorly about yourself, you probably aren't behaving in a happy manner & people aren't as likely to want to be around you. Do some things that you enjoy. Read, paint your nails, go out with friends, take a class in something you like, exercise, enjoy nature, listen to music...whatever you like. Join a church, group or club & get to know some more people. Smile & start to see the positive things in life. As far as your sister goes...you could still find a husband who would be willing to help care for her & has as big a heart as you. You could also find a group home for her, where she could be happy with others like her & you could still visit. You could check some out. They aren't all bad or institutional. We have one in our area that's very nice & I have a cousin in one that he enjoys. His dad died & his mom is too old to care for him alone. They thought he'd be untrainable, but he actually has a job in the home that he enjoys. Be positive & you will start to see the joys in life & start to give off a better aura to others too. I wish you the best.
- 10 years ago
Screw everyone who is negative toward you, everyone is beautiful but my suggestion if you have low self esteem about your weight and appearance then go on a good diet and work out on a schedule, contact a gym and discuss what exercise plan is best for you and if or what diet you should go on. Start eating healthier. No one is ever alone in life be friendlier towards people you will make many friends and just be patient for the right guy.
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- 10 years ago
Everyone likes different people (looks, sizes, and personalities). I believe there is someone out there for everyone. If you are a nice person, that is the most important thing. Plus some people prefer Bigger Women.
Source(s): Myself. - 10 years ago
You are fat and ugly. That alone is enough to drive away anyone. But you also have major baggage.....your sister. Her care is YOUR problem, no one else's. You need to grow up and quit living in a Dreamworld. You have no right to subject any man to help care for your sister. ...and what if she objects??? IMO you deserve to be alone.
- Anonymous10 years ago
Of course there right your fat and ugly.