My child is hurt by someone she admired, respect and trust.?

Life is filled with bumps and at the time some of these seem like mountains rather than just bumps ...

As a parent you want to support and help her through this and this is exactly what she needs - but as a counselor you also know that you will not be able to fix everything - some things she needs to work through and deal with on her own - as hard as it is it is an important part of growing up - it teaches resilience if nothing else!

Let her know you are always available for her - let her know you understand why she feels so very hurt & just be gentle with her - she will come to you when she has her own thoughts and feelings surrounding all this clear in her own head!

EDIT - "A mother is only as happy as her saddest child.".... trust that she will come to you - & in the mean time do things with her that you know she will enjoy - 1:1 special time - even if it is just going for a milkshake or something after school!

Parenting is a tough job. It is important (as you know) to continue to let your daughter know that you are available if she needs to talk to you--about anything. If you feel or get the impression that she will not talk to you--consider seeking some help. You or your daughter may call the Boys Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000. We have counselors available 24/7 and we talk to kids/teens and parents about a wide variety of issues. It may help you to talk to someone, and if she were to call--at least you know where she would be calling. Take a look at our websites too. There may be some helpful suggestions posted there for you and for her.

Of course as a parent--to see our kids struggling or upset is so heart breaking. But at the same time, you need to take care of yourself, and you also need to set a good example to your daughter, if she is feeling bad or struggling with intense feelings, it is important to reach out for help. It is ok to ask for help. Take care and reach out to us when you get the chance. Counselor KJ

YES! let her talk about it to her Gf's mother if she gets along with the mother well or to another therapist or counselor. You can't be everything to everybody and your child sees you as her mother and not as a counselor.. she needs someone else to talk with.. maybe she feels that you are not impartial (Biased) in as far as the person who hurt her is concerned. Sometimes when things are too close to home she might feel that if this is her sibling or her father that she has a problem with that you cannot be unbiased in regards to that person---->>> let her talk to a counselor privately without you interfering.

Tell your child you're here if she/he ever wants to talk about it and that you live him/her and would do anything in your power to fix it. Remember, you cannot force your child to talk to you about whatever is bothering him/her. If you keep pushing them you might never know. Just let your child know you're there and try not to mention the conversation again. Hope that helped.

Peace & Love

Connect with her about something else. Get her to help you out. Find a repetitive, mindless activity that doesn't require talking.

i think you should tell her that anytime she wants to talk you will be right here for here and tell her that every one will pass a broken-heart.. you should tell her a personal story that has happened to you when you were young.. that will make her talk to you and ask how did you get through it ;) x x good luck with your baby girl :)x