Can't change, feel stuck...help?

This is a typical mental health problem, for which I think you have to consult only a professionally qualified doctor. He will be able to diagnose and give treatment.

You could see a counsellor to sort out your issues, talking through with a professional would help you to put them into perspective.

You have to understand the reality of how you see yourself. As a child you were teased and criticised, which makes you feel worthless now. But you have to see that you are a different person now. Your dad doesn't follow you round (not sure why you would get teased for that..) and girls rejected you for being too clingy etc too early. In future, avoid being clingy and wait a while before telling them how you feel. There is nothing now to stop you from having a successful relationship. You are not a joke, you were just a little vulnerable when you were younger so fell for them too quickly. Now you are not, you know you have issues and are willing to solve them.

I think you should solve it by moving away from home. I know it sounds a little extreme, but you are 21 and i think if you were forced to be a bit more independent and sociable then i think you would gradually overcome your issues. Your issues are based on you when you were younger but you are probably a different person now, you should focus on what is good about you.

You are definitely not cursed in relationships! It is just a matter of finding someone who you get on with, getting to know them and gradually getting more serious. You are attractive, young and single so go out and have fun!

So you are sensitive soul. You are not without feelings. So it means you are approachable. That’s a positive.

Rejected! So you are human after all. OK. Have a good cry - Keep your dignity. Can it be done any better? Is it worth a second try? Perhaps its for the best. Hey, our scars are there to remind us that our past is real and we can always do things some other way.

So you were overweight. That’s good – it means you can sympathise and empathise with people who have similar issues. Being able to walk in someone’s shoes is often the way forward to helping in changing a belief system.

That’s three good things so far! If I dig deeper, I’m sure I will find more.

Sometimes a criticism is a wake-up call to move on and up. Swallow hard. Take the hand that is being offered out to you however uninviting it looks. Not all good things come in easy to open pretty packages and we have to abit of work towards opening the package like getting the scissors to cut the strings that bind it.

The dim light you see in the distance is your opportunity to manoeuvre into a better viewing position.

Josh, many like yourself are invited, or get the call to do better for themselves. But it has to be you because you have the power to make the initial choice to go for it. Take your first step now.

I think that you need to stop hating on yourself and thinking that everyone is hating you. I have had my fair share of troubles have been bullied and have been rejected in relationships i have had.

The best way to get around this is to not let it affect you (easier said than done i know). Hey im 28 and idiots still call me but you have to learn that they are doing it because of their own insecurities. One day you will find someone and they will blow your socks off and you will just know that they are the one, then all your thoughts on the relationship being doomed will just go out the window. I think the people you are choosing maybe arnt at the stage yet for a "serious" relationship, its a big world out there so like another one of the comments said get yourself out there and enjoy it. Your only 21 so there is plenty of time to settle, if all else fails then maybe go see someone and talk through your problems in depth. I belive in you though and think you should go live your life and take control. YOu only get one after all!!

You can change,

First things first. Think positive, it's really hard, easier said then done but it helps a ton.

Anyway about girls, practice, practice, practice. Even if you get rejected, it hurts, but you need to not let it get you down. You need confidence, when you have doubt Pull yourself together!

If a girl rejects you, brush it off. Never act like it bothers you. Because It's a not a big deal, other fish in the sea, you know?

Even if you can't be confident. You fake it, eventually you'll gain it by faking it.

The good thing is you realize, you were clingy so just don't let it happen again.

When you start bashing yourself, picture a red stop sign and realize It's just your thoughts.

Thoughts can't hurt you, they only can if you let them. Brush them off, they aren't important so don't give them attention.

Also When you were 14, forget it. You're probably the only one who remembers, even if you aren't. Who cares? it was the past, and it doesn't matter now.

Now get into your hobbies, start working out, become strong.

And Blast music/headphones when your parents fight. It helps.

First things first, you live in an emotionally abusive environment, one which you need to leave right now if you hope to ever become the kind of man you want to be.

Next, you need to rebuild your self-esteem and your self-confidence. Women LOVE men with high self-esteem and high self-confidence so by resolving this issue you will also fix the other. How are you going to do this?

Start by making a list of ALL of your gifts, talents, abilities, proficiencies, etc., etc. EVERYONE has them. You've become an expert at rattling off all of your faults and failings - real and imaginary - now it's time for you to focus on all of the good in you.

Once you have this list go over it every single day and every time you start getting down on yourself. If there are any aspects of yourself that you wish were better then make them better. REDESIGN yourself, REMAKE yourself in YOUR image. BE whatever you want to BE. THIS is the power, the incredible gift of Free Will. You can become anything you imagine - anything at all :)

You're completely over thinking things man, honestly i do the same its not good for you.

Sometimes the really obvious things are the anwer. Sounds like you're lackin confidence, buy some clothes that're a bit more expensive and start working out or boxing.

The confidence you get from being in shape and feeling strong is imense, just dont get all cocky.

This answer isn't a solution to a really deep problem, but you're problem isn't deep, you just lack confidence, thats all it is, and when you think badly of yourself, if you get with a girl you think she'll do the same and you become clingy cos you're scared you'll lose her, and clingy is really unnactractive.

Simple problem simple solution, **** seeing a doctor you dont health mental health issues lol

hiya listen its true you been through a lot right lets deal with the future , you need building up your self esteem is low ,ok now can you join clubs like classes outside your comfort zone outside your area, like dancing kick boxing rock climbing painting cooking any thing all skills learnt will help but this is the thing when you go to a class on your own slowly by going regular you make new friends now dont try to be liked heres the rules you go without your past,you go be yourself not acting be a listner ppl like to talk about there self please take a deep breath and go to a new place in your head dont tell new friends your past is in past slowly do baby steps use this hate you have to push you your new life your new friends hey this will work one hundred per cent life is short so i want you to realize you got a right to be yourself try what you got to loose dont tell your parents tell no one this is your buissness give it a go micky

u need a love to solve that problem