Help?? what the hell is up?

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Feel worthless, like nobody notices me, feel the odd one out, I think I feel this because as a kid I got negative critisicm and was teased alot about my dad following me. So I felt a joke and different from everyone else, got knocked back when I was younger by alot of girls because I was needy, clingy and expressed my feelings too early on and that really hurt so I was scared of getting rejected because the pain. This is why I believe I'll get rejected because i'm seen as a joke and worthless... I want to change my belief but it seems so true, even though they are just thoughts, they seem believable.

I'm scared of being happy in a relationship incase I get rejected, I got the mentalitynow that eventually in any relationship i'll get rejected, like i'm jinxed or unlucky or something undetectable. I wish I didn't feel this way I feel doomed.

How can I change??

When I was 14 I was fat and found it hard to fit, also my mum was very over-protective so my dad came everywhere with me which was embarrasing.

It feels as though i'm cursed in relationships and i'm the only one like it....

can you help me with advice??

p.s parents constantly argue around me and I ******* hate it!!!

I'm 21 years old btw!

Naguru · Accepted Answer

Pray. Sincere and honest prayers are answered fast.

Nermine · Answer

I can easily relate, because my parents do the same. 
They are too protective of me, and sometimes don't even allow me to go out with my friends because they are too afraid I might get hurt or something and just keep arguing in front of me, I mean if they have to fight they shall do it somewhere else!

Anyway, you're only problem is that you lack of confidence and can't seem to let go of the past. You're already 21 and that happened around 7 years ago, you need to move on! Try to enjoy your life man and seize every moment you get.

My best advice is to try to let go of the past even if it's hard! 
Keep in mind, that the moment you enter a new place, you get to know new people, who know nothing about your past. Be confident, show them you're worthy and not invisible! Be what you are today and don't be trapped in yesterday! Because believe it or not, if you give people the impression that you're worthless, they ARE going to treat you like you are worthless! .. Ask a girl out, don't be afraid of rejection! She's not going to remember it forever.. I mean I had boys telling me they like me before! But we girls forget, and won't dis you about it. On the contrary, some girls are happy when they're told someone likes them because they feel worthy.

And no you're not cursed, not at all. You yourself said you are afraid of asking girls out due to the rejection of getting a no, so how can it be that you're cursed if you've only asked two or three girls out and they said no?
Take chances and be happy. Just believe that you ARE going to be happy, and that everything will be better.

Hope that helped in any way.

Anonymous · Answer

lol I know the feeling I'm 21 now too :P

what are your eat and sport patterns like? it sounds clichÃ© but this will change your mood a lot :) I used to eat extremely unhealthy (chips & crisps anyone?) and never played any sports, now that I do I feel better

find a sport you like or buy nintendo wii :P

bout your parents I know the **** when I hear them argue I just turn up the volume of my music and I focus on my studies

Anonymous · Answer

You have to improve your self esteem:

http://www.wikihow.com/Develop-Self-Esteem

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