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What do I do if local law enforcement will not help me stop a stalker?

What do I do if the county I reside in keeps dropping the ball? My sister has had many issues with the father of her children. He will not let her and her children be, he refuses to sign custody papers and generally terrorizes them. She has had to turn to staying with family, hiding her vehicle and is now afraid to walk out her door alone. She has had 2 Orders of Protection issued, the first was not served until 2 days before it's expiration and the second she let expire on the advice of her lawyer because in a criminal trespass case he was ordered a year no contact with her. He has been showing up at her house and over the weekend when we called the police we were informed that the no contact order that was handed down at his August 24, court date was never served to the county jail and there for they could not act on it. The officer that told us that also told us that we should call them if we saw him driving by as we are all aware that he is driving on a revoked license and no insurance. This afternoon our mother called the police station and informed him that she knew for a fact that he would be driving and where and what time (we are very desperate to get him where he can not hurt my sister or her children). This officer basically informed her that even if he pulled him over he would not arrest him but just issue a ticket that our family was trying to "black ball" this man. We are all at our wits end the county/city keeps dropping the ball and the following, stalking, and threats continue to get worse. The issue is this is not his first go around with our county. His last relationship ended this same way. He tried to run my sister off the road while her children were in the car she drove straight to the police station and the cop let him go with a warning. From there he followed her and she had to dial 911 again he was let off with a warning. Then he vandalized her car on private property this is where the criminal trespass charges came from. While awaiting his court date she had to call the authorities again for following her and trying to cause her to have an accident with the kids in the car. He was pulled over and let go (even though he had no license or insurance). The County just keeps letting him get away with this and we are afraid for her and her children's safety. What do we do?

Update:

His offenses include (but are not limited to)

Peeping in windows

Trespassing

issuing threats (verbally, by text, and via facebook)

trying to run her off the road

vandalism

stalking

As for us trying to get him into trouble, my mom and sister have done everything they can in order to get him help. He refuses it and refuses to take his medicine (he has been in a Psychiatric ward). I do not understand how he is not violating and order of no contact by peeping in her windows. She does not seek him out none of us do. The Judge ordered that he still have contact with the children with my mother being the supervisor. We want him off the street because my parents work over the road and I live a hundred miles away from her and no one is there to keep her and the kids safe. This has been going on for 6 months and we have repeatedly called the police and nothing is ever done.

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  • lost 1
    Lv 6
    10 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Only one Protection Order works It is spelled GLOCK

  • MikeTL
    Lv 6
    10 years ago

    There are 3 sides to every story: Your side, His side, and the truth in the middle. I am not saying that your version isn't accurate but there are other factors to consider.

    First is the NCO. The NCO must be served properly in order for it to be enforced. The officers can only enforce the verbage of the NCO. If she lives on a public road, he can't be barred from driving down the road.

    It doesn't matter his license status, that is irrelevant to an NCO. A cop must witness someone with an invalid license driving. In your state that may be only a secondary infraction and the cop can't pull him over just on that. In my state it is a primary infraction and we can pull you over for driving while suspended.

    Second is the stalking. Stalking requires intent. Based on what I have read I don't see any intent to stalking.

    Having been a cop I agree with the Cops statements. It sounds to me like you are going above and beyond to get this guy in trouble. If you truly are in fear of this guy then you would not be trying to get the cops to catch him. I have worked a lot of domestic issues in my career and have seen a lot of cases similar to yours. In every case, the victim was trying to ruin the suspect.

    An NCO works both ways. While the respondant is the only one that will get introuble for violating, the pettitioner can piss off the judge by antaganoizing the respondant. Good way to get your case tossed.

    My advice to you is obey the NCO to a "T". Don't go looking for this guy and trying to get him in trouble. If he has truly violated the order then call the cops and they will arrest him. Sounds to me like hasn't violated it yet though. Actively going after this guy has you have been doing is just a good way to ruin any case against him.

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    I am with lost 1. If I fear for my life I have my Glock at my side not a piece of paper and phone.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    10 years ago

    Arm yourself.

    Hopefully the state you live in has a strong "castle doctrine" law.

    Source(s): I am a retired police officer. I retired as a sergeant, after 29 years, from a very large department, about 12,000 officers. I was a patrol officer for 4 years in a very diverse area. I was a tactical officer in the high rise project areas of my city. We called it vertical patrol in that we walked the the stairways of the high rises most of the time. I did that for 5 years and was promoted by test to detective. I worked violent crime (homicide, sex, officer involved shootings, robbery, kidnapping, serious non property incidents) for 11 years until I was promoted to sergeant. I worked as a street supervisor, a bicycle patrol supervisor and a desk sergeant/watch commander. During my time as a tactical officer and a detective I was a unit representative for the police union. I have a B.A in English and an M.S. in Law Enforcement Administration..
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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    move

    Edit: it is not worth it to go to prison for shooting someone who was very annoying.

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