How do you survive the crazy upside down payment set up of child support??.?

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Asking this for someone who can't afford a PC or much of anything else.They have a child support payment that is higher than their paychecks. They want to support the children but the payments are higher than seems sensible.
This person is already working 2 jobs, they have no car, relatives drive them to work and back to their apartment. They have no TV. only an alarm clock. They eat only snacks as the apartment is only one room box. They share a common bathroom  and kitchen. If you put food in the kitchen, someone else eats your food. They work hard, but can barely keep this place which is like 400 a month for a box to stay in. Nothing is furnished but electricity, air conditioning, and heat.  They have peanut butter ,jelly, and cereal, but can't put milk in the fridge because someone else will drink it up. There is no microwave to heat food. A stove in the kitchen but no pans, pots etc. If they keep bread  or milk in the room it will mold. There are not enough plugs to use a dorm fridge, a microwave, and a clock at the same time.
   If they are put in jail they can't make the child support payment, but their paycheck isn't sent immediately to child support, The company they work for evidently  holds the support  payment for an unknown amount of time and evidently make these payments late.
    Their question is how  can anyone survive? How do you survive if you are in a  similar situation? They eat once about every 3 or 4 days and then work two jobs.
   I know this person very well, they are trying hard to make the payments on time. This person is not a bad parent by any means. They are just trapped by a crazy system. This can and does happen to both men and women who are not necessarily the bad parent. 

    Is there a better way to set up payment(s) . So both the spouses can make it and hopefully the children too?

? · Accepted Answer

Send him these.

http://ChildSupportRights.org/WhatPayersNeed2Know
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Federal Child Support Enforcement Handbook for Non-Custodial Parents 
http://childsupportrights.org/
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http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Dads_House_Ed_Ctr/
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For 22 years, I have volunteered my time working with divorced/single fathers dealing in family law issues, such as child support, teaching them about what the states are not telling support obligors.
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cookie · Answer

You have to understand that those children did not ask to be here.  He is responsible for paying for them and needs to do whatever he can to do that.  If there is only one mother, imagine what she's going through trying to put food on the table and provide a home for them.  He needs to get better jobs or move in with a friend or relative in order to save some money.  He'll get no sympathy from the judge as he should have known how to prevent the pregnancies in the first place.  My ex tried to show the judge how much he spends on bills and rent, but he was told to either find a second job or get a room mate.  Those children are his responsibility and now he has to pay for them.  I'm sorry to sound so cold, but too many people are out there having babies and wanting someone else to pay for them.  It's time for him to be a man and find a solution to his problem.

Anonymous · Answer

A buddy of mine was in a similar situation.. The poor bastard has 2 exes and 3 kids . 

He worked 3 jobs . 2 of which were above board and what his child support was based on and the 3rd as a bouncer at the tity bar was cash and what was left for him to live off of.

Consider getting yourself a cash job or starting a small cash business.

? · Answer

Child aid is headquartered at the owing father and mother gross sales and different kids he/she can have. The courts won't take from one baby to supply to an extra. Technically baby aid is meant to be headquartered on what each father and mother gross sales is after which it's divided in order that the dad or mum who has custody is not dwelling off of the owing father and mother aid. The factor of basing baby aid for your sales is so the baby can reside on the stage they might have will have to the father and mother have stayed in combination. And will have to custody transfer fingers each father and mother are mindful of the baby aid quantity. Asking for an expand does now not assurance an expand. The owing dad or mum too can request a discount headquartered on sales and dwelling fees. You can do that each and every 2 years however in an severe difference in situation you'll request it's decreased faster. The owing dad or mum too can request itemized reciepts as evidence to the courtroom that the baby aid is spent at the demands of the baby. If the custodial dad or mum can not provide stated evidence, baby aid is decreased and in severe instances custody is switched. Warning!!! Rant is coming! My husband is presently paying baby aid to his ex. He will pay $345/month + a few for again aid. He did not pay baby aid for a yr and a part after their divorce and our tax returns move to her till it is paid. My husband and I have three kids in combination and feature been married for five years. We haven't begun to peer a tax go back! And our returns are generally $3000+(this yr it was once meant to be almost $5000). Don't question me how it's feasible that he is now not paid present! I am nonetheless looking to determine that one out! I in my opinion consider that if you are getting $116 a week, you will have to be grateful. There are a ton of dads who do not pay after which the guys that do get raked over the coals and hasseled for more cash and their new households undergo the economic loss. And part the time the mother's would possibly not even allow the dads paying or now not paying see the children considering in their possess pent up bitterness! End Rant! In order so that you can get an expand you wish to have evidence that he's making more cash now than he was once 3yrs in the past. He will then be contacted by means of aid inforcement and may have the possibility to contest the movement for a lift in aid quantity. And if he requests that it's decreased, you'll contest that.

? · Answer

He should join Dads House Educational group on Yahoo Groups. Mr. McCasland has been volunteering his time for 20+ years to help responsible Fathers.

He can help with information regarding payment and access. Send a link to this question when you join the group and tell him Donna says hi.

Morning Star · Answer

I think if the court order which decided those payments was more than a year ago, he can go back to court and request a Modification.  They can look at his current situation and both their incomes and decide to possibly lower payments.  I might start with the Child Support enforcement agency.  They even have the right papers sometimes.

Anonymous · Answer

It is clear that you need to go back to court and have the support order modified to be within your means.

An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, so to prevent any further child support orders, be sure to practice safe sex.

ladystang · Answer

you keep it in pants until you have an education and job that can support a baby

same for men and women

you don't have kids or marriage till you can afford them

Happy-2 · Answer

Ignorance = having kids you can't afford.

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