How do cerebral people grieve?

Everyone grieves differently. Some people DO experience a huge surge of grief, but others absorb it differently, and then deal with it over time. The important thing is that you are dealing with it, and when the time comes, you can do whatever you feel you need to do. If you are, indeed, "cerebral," then you're intelligent enough to know that not everyone is th same; your feelings will come when they come, and your way is no better or worse than anyone else's.

One caution, and this is coming from a person who is also cerebral (I've been a member of Mensa for almost 40 years, and have an IQ in the neighborhood of 145): Don't let others label you as "left-brained" or "right-brained." You're not a brain; you're a person; you have feelings and emotions, although you may have been told that smart people aren't ruled by their emotions. You're a whole human being. Don't assume that other intelligent people are all alike, either, and don't let that pop-psychology mold limit your behavior or your feelings.

I'm going to hazard a guess here that you're a first-born child, as you talk about taking care of others. It's ok if someone takes care of YOU, too. Just because you're intellectual doesn't mean you don't need a connection to others; indeed, you may need it MORE than average, because it's hard for you to find people to whom you can relate. Accept others' condolences with thanks; if there comes a time when you cry or scream or rail at the world, then that's fine, but if you don't grieve that way, that's ok too. Do what YOU need to do, and for once don't worry about taking care of others, or living up to what you presume are their expectations. It's ok to take care of yourself.

I'm very sorry for your losses.

Sorry to hear about that...

I'm like you I lack emotion. But I do cry for those who die. Actually I lie. My uncle died when I was young. I didn't cry. Another died when I was older but I still didn't cry...

3 pets of mine have died in ooh under 10 years.

The first there was a single tear when I got told he had leukemia.

The second I was sad for a while but I didn't cry. I almost did when my sister broke down in front of me(it was her cat)

The 3rd, was recent. He was mine. I pretended to be fine but I cried for several days every night.

When the second uncle died after a few months one night I just started crying for about 20 minutes.

I guess it can just the heat of the moment that will make you grieve or you could just suddenly release your emotions later on...

But then everyone has their own way of grieving...

Although the way you think makes me think you won't.

Grieve by arguing with yourself, by beating yourself up for not being the sort of person you should be and by calling yourself a bad person.

You're a frog. You don't need to concern yourself with such philosophical matters.