Parents to teenagers please answer?

Apparently, U and I are both missing it! 'Cause there is NO WAY IN HELL my daughter's BF would be spending the night in my home! And there is NO WAY she would be allowed to spend the night there!

Some parents allow their child's boyfriend/girlfriend to spend the night while others don't. It all falls down to the parent and so many different factors.

How old are the teenagers? (13? 16? 18? 19?)

Are they sexually active? If so, does the parent provide contraceptives?

Is there a reason the boyfriend/girlfriend stays there on the weekends? Does their parents do something on the weekends that requires them to be gone and they don't want their teen home alone?

And a lot of other questions... Based on the Information you have given it doesn't really seem like you know any of the reasons why. Only thing I can tell you is that even though you think it is bad parenting, you probably don't really know the reasons why. In other words, you should kind of mind your own business in this situation because there are a lot of unanswered questions and you didn't really provied any infomation.

I would allow my daughter to have her boyfriend stay over. They would not be able to sleep in the same bed, but yes, I would allow him to stay. I would like to show my daughter that I respect her, I would want to get to know my daughter's boyfriend and I'd like to at least know where they were of an evening. When I was a teenager, my mum wouldn't even let my boy friend in the house. As a result we'd sometimes end up at other peoples dodgy houses snogging in some dirty bedroom. I know what I'd choose.

I think I would depending on his age, and his gf's age, among other things. This question is really broad and leaves out a lot of factors. I do not believe that it's irresponsible or bad parenting to have my teenager's gf/bf sleep at my house. If teenagers want to have sex, they will just find other ways to do it. When I was a teenager I was not even allowed to have a boy in my room and my bf had the same rule. I still ended up pregnant though.

every parent is different.

but you, or anyone else has no right to call her a bad mom.

Maybe she can trust them.

When I do have kids that wont be happening, I cant say they cant come over but they cannot spend the night and must be back home by 9:30 or 10:00 pm and MAYBE if I can trust her I would let her have her boyfriend over and she must have a friend with her. they cant sleep in the same bed either.

He's only a friend not her boyfriend but yes he does sometimes sleep over.I'm more than confident that nothing goes on while I'm asleep and no I'm not being naive but I do know my daughter very well. Besides he sleeps downstairs she's on the second floor I'm in between and I'm a light sleeper. If that makes me a bad mother then I'm quite happy being a bad mother, you know there are some teens out there who do abstain

How is it bad parenting? Sex before marriage being a 'sin' is just an old idea related to religion. Sex is natural, and teenagers are naturally predispositioned to have it. As long as they're educated and using protection why should it be stopped?

No one has a real reason except for that's what they were told.

No. When I'm asleep, my daughter could be in her room having sex. I find it extremely irresponsible when parents do that.

I'm a teen & I wouldn't do that. That's like setting up your daughter to get pregnant ..

I'm a teen but that seems crazy to me. :P