should i stay with him or leave him after he has cheated or tried to?

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we met 8months ago on our first date. we had spoken on an online dating site, got along quite well, since that day once a week we have dated and been on weekend away, become boyfriend and girlfriend, he is very shy so his way of stating that we were official was, adding me as his gf on facebook, lol.. i say he is very shy he is quiet, but he plays rugby and when he is on pitch or with the lads he is an up beat happy chatty man. 
anyways ive had my suspicions about him for a little while and couldn't quite figure out why, but last weekend i saw a convo he was having with a friend about how angry he was with a girl for doing what she did so i asked what she had done, he said that she had been showing off pics of guys on her phone and he said he had one like that on his of him in a towel and showed her!! he'd left his phone in bar to have cigarette and next week when he went to same pub there was the picture of him in the towel in A4 paper hanging behind the bar.. i replied to him he was out of order in the first place showing a girl that pic which he hadn't even thought about... but it made me question him, later that night we were at the comp and he typed his password into facebook and i saw it, so later that night i decided to ease my suspicions by just checking his messages, which ordinarily id NEVER even think about doing but i had huge erge too, and lone behold there are messages to 8 different girls asking them out for 'fun times' they mention me in them and ask them what about your gf, he replies either shes my friend with a weird sense of humour and we not actually together or he says whats the prob shes my gf i only want a bit of fun with u, ?!?! what ii dont get is he is begging me to move closer to him and i was planned to move next month, to his town where i dont know anyone! i have 2 children too and have had horrible past and he jst isnt the type to hurt me like this so i dont know what to do, ive told him a girl (named one of the ones he has been writing too) had emailed my via facebook to say what he like but he completley denies it?!?! so confused what to do i really care about him,
today he said he dont want to loose me cos he sees our future together please can someone give me some advise, im lost.... sorry this is soooo long!!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Hi 
First get off face book it will kill your relationship due to bitchy people trying to chop your head off with their own anger and sitting there saying things like why do you have a life and they don't.Use Face book to simply chat or better still phone people even text that way it is your business not the world or dare i say the other woman's, or mans which ever is relevant at the time.
second trust in your own feelings they are not wrong, don't go down a track when you are not sure were it leads.
and third if he is dedicated to you he will not talk any-other way about you other than to friends to your face or with you.

I can see you are angry don't make it harder for you your kids are more value to you so a strong  mum is a brill mum or you would not be asking for help and that makes you a strong Mum.
Comments on face book come back to bite you i would think so don't make any, their are better ways like ending it if you are sure or loving and sorting it if you are not.xx

Paul Kurt

papaioannou · Answer

If the marriage is over and it sounds like it extremely is, then i do now no longer see any might prefer to stay in a controversy which will basically make you depressing. regardless of the fundamental certainty that, i might take it gradual to reinforce an pass out physique of strategies. First, i might touch a lawyer and ask some questions. because of the certainty of your daughter's disabilities and the actual shown fact which you have spent multiple years at residing homestead for the time of your marriage giving her care, you're in all probability to be provided spousal help (and extremely toddler help) to help offset the financial burden. additionally, keep in strategies that offered that your husband is the same old provider and at present factors scientific nicely being coverage on your daughter, he will maximum in all probability be ordered to proceed doing so in terms of a divorce. 2d, i might touch all indoors of sight social provider companies. you're eligible for caregiver respite preserve your daughter. a great sort of those centers are provided via technique of the state at no fee to you. this additionally will help ease the rigidity of being a semi-single determine on your daughter. additionally undergo in strategies which you isn't a "single" determine. Married or divorced, your husband will inspite of the certainty that be her father and ought to in all probability be provided the two joint custody or, on the least, visitation at the same time along with her. inspite of what you return returned to a call, i choose for you the perfect.

Anonymous · Answer

Time to fess up. You were looking for trouble... and... you found it.

You've only known him for 8 months. You say "he jst isnt the type to hurt me like this"... but guess what? You've just found out he IS.

Decide ahead of time. Honestly? I'd be thankful that I found this out ahead of time before the move so I could cancel it. You clearly want a monogamous relationship. Doesn't sound like he does.

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FFS - Don't be so childish as to "seek revenge".

Kelsea · Answer

In my opion leave him once a cheater always a cheater but here is something, get a cion flip it to c what u really want heads stay tails leave. plain n simple hope it works out :)

hiddenmyname · Answer

To be honest I wouldn't stay with him as I would never be able to trust him. And I certainly wouldn't uproot me and my family to be with him. Let him go is my advice.

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