How would you respond if your spouse asked you if you would ever consider participating in a threesome?

I think if a spouse is asking you if you would consider a threesome, you should look at a few things deeper before deciding how you are going to react. Is he asking because your sex life is boring? Is he just fantasizing? Does he want out of the relationship and to begin having sex with other girls because he's no longer attracted to you? Is he exploring you and trying to understand where your boundaries are?

Personally, my boyfriend has asked me, and I have humored the idea. I know he's asked me because he is very sexually expressive. He has had threesomes before. I know that I would not gain anything if I tried to make him be anyone else other then who he is and inhibit his sexual desires. And as it happens i think the idea of it is actually quite hot.

Also, knowing that he would invite another man into the play, MMF, tells me even more that this is less about him and another girl, and just sexual experiences. I think that if ANYONE feels the need to bring up a threesome, they need to be ok with their partners requests as well. None of this 'I want a threesome with you and a chick, but i'd never be ok with another dude touching you' ****. That's just being controlling and i'd questions ulterior motives in that case.

Its generally hard for women to hear that there men have other sexual desires. Its the nature of the beast, and best case scenario, you are matched up with someone who's sexual desires match yours. It doesn't matter what anyone says. Sex in a relationship is a central issue. Not just the side dish that is a bonus to the relationship.

And I am a Female.

I don't have a long enough attention span to look at videos for more than 4 or 5 seconds, but if this is a question about smoking weed, then my answer is yes. Getting stoned is one of the few things my wife & I can still do together without wanting to gouge each other's eyes out. It's what helps keep a fantastic marriage like ours thriving!

I am a female and if my husband suggested a threesome with another girl, I'd hate it! I'd be thinking I'm obvs not good enough for him, he wants to stray, whats wrong with just me?! (even though I know it's a common fantasy for men haha) If he suggested with another guy I'd be a little freaked out... I personally wouldn't enjoy that either!

BUT I also find myself attracted to women (although never taken it futher than a drunk kiss back when I was single!) so hypathetically if I knew of a woman I may want to experiment with and she fancied joining us i'd think of that as a different matter than if my husband was the first to want her to join! (Basically making me a huge hypocrite) The only reason I say a woman over a man is because I know my husband would say a definite no to a guy. This isn't EVER gonna happen but that's the way I think of it :)

Well, I've done 3 ways 2 times. Once with 2 guys and me none of us attached and it was fun but none of us were committed to each other, I did once with my ex and a girl (I knew) he was sleeping with behind my back. Once again, unless they were emotionally attached, there were no attachments but she was a straight slut and it wasn't fun. I told my husband before we got engaged, if he ever wanted to try a 3 way, I'd be up to it but my feelings changed when we got married but either way he wasn't interested. He's into one person and one person only. If he asked, I maybe suspicious or think I may have brought it up too much and made him think I really wanted one. I'd be iffy and probably wouldn't do it since there are too many risks and he doesn't have an interest in any other women so why put the marriage at risk?

I'm a female by the way.

I don't think a threesome is a good idea.

Having said that, if my wife brought it up, I would not be inclined to go along, but I would have to ask her who she had in mind for the third person.

I would be very interested in who she would want, even if we never do it.

My guy and I talked about threesomes as a fantasy of his ( 2 girls and one guy). He really wasn't interested in having intercourse with the female but for me to have sex with a female while he also pleased me. I really don't mind ( not that I am into females) I even asked him to be honest if he wanted to have sex with the female or was it an excuse to do so. He stated no even when I said I would be fine with it.

He later asked if I had ever thought of 2 males and me going together. I told him that would make me look like a whore. ( He is the only person I slept with). He then said no it wouldn't but he wouldn't want to share me with any other guy.

I really could care less if we had a threesome or not.

It would have to go both ways equally. Two men, one female and two females, one male and not just one sided, I would probably consider it a possibility more likely to happen. My wife and I know exactly what we have together, so this would be a subject that would never come up.

This question from a spouse is usually a trick question particularly if it comes from the female in the relationship.

I would say that I would not consider it, because of the possible problems it could cause in the marriage. I would tell her that if we were single and only dating casually, I might consider it, but not as a married couple.

I'm a female and I don't really like the idea. If my spouse suggested another woman, I would feel like I'm not enough for him and if he suggested another man,(although I would prefer THAT) I'd think he might be "bi".