questions about engagement announcement dinner?

I like the idea of food goodies. I would give it to them, with the card, when you have a moment alone. That way, no one feels weird at the dinner.

Flowers may be difficult to enjoy if she is traveling back home soon after. If she will be staying at the grooms house for a few days, that would be ample time to enjoy it. And then, you would still have the unused food basket idea as a gift for their wedding.

Hi nova. Long time no type!

A gift is never inappropriate, but since this is not a gift giving event, I wouldn't bring it to the dinner. I like your ideas, especially the gift basket. But I'd try to get it delivered before the event. You run into the same issue I've run into at all 3 engagement parties I've been to (they're not common in my world). Some bring gifts, some don't. It creates awkwardness all around, especially if the guests of honor actually open them and those who didn't bring one stand out.

Even though they are not calling this an engagement party, it actually is. The purpose of an engagement party if for the two families to get to know each other. Also, an engagement party is not a gift giving event. Bringing a nice engagement card is appropriate. If you want, you can bring a nice bottle of wine or champagne.

Your idea of giving something they can use up is a very good one. However, it should not contain anything perishable. Gourmet tea/coffee/cocoa/packaged cookies in a gift basket would be nice.

If possible, give it to them privately, so that people who aren't bringing gifts won't be embarrassed. You can bring your card to the dinner, and present it either then or later, depending on how it goes.

I think I would make it a bit more portable, like a gift certificate to a nice restaurant enclosed with your congratulatory card. Or their favorite bottle of wine or liquor with a congratulatory card.