Have we started enjoying our sorrows, pains and sufferings?

You enjoy pain and suffering because then you feel like a martyr. There is great pleasure in martyrdom. When you are unhappy, you ask for sympathy, and sympathy is very pleasant. That is why people exaggerate their suffering tenfold, while telling it to other people. What could be the reason that people go on telling their tales of suffering when nobody wants to listen.

Who is interested in your suffering? Your tales of woe only make others sad; they can't possibly make flowers bloom in their lives, yet you insist on telling them. And the other listens only till he is hopeful that you will also listen to his woes. If he doesn't think that will happen then he slips away. You call only those people bores who don't allow you to speak. So there is a kind of contract: you bore us and we bore you. You bore me with your tales of suffering, I will bore you with mine and then we will be even.

Why do people talk so much about suffering? The reason is that man seeks sympathy. If you broadcast your woes someone will caress you and soothe you. Someone will say,"O! you are suffering so much. You are asking for love from the other in this manner. That is why you have a large investment in your suffering. You have invested a lot in your suffering.

Whenever you are unhappy only then you see a little hope around you. People seem to offer you help and support. They are sympathetic. You have never received any love in your life and sympathy is rubbish, but it is the next best thing to love. One who has never had real gold starts making do with unreal gold.

Sympathy is false love. What you really wanted was love, but love has to be earned, because only a person capable of giving love can get it. Love is a reflection of what you give away. You are incapable of giving; you are only begging. You are a beggar, not a king! It is much easier to beg when you are suffering.

Look at the beggar along the road. He has made artificial wounds on his body. Those wounds are not real. But he seems in so much pain that you find it very difficult to say 'no'; you feel guilty, it hurts your ego that how can you say 'no' to a person who is in so much pain. If he looks healthy then you will also say,"You are healthy; do something, earn something; you can earn something! But seeing a suffering man you can not say anything. You have to show sympathy even if it is false.

You hold on to suffering because you did not receive love. One who has received love in life will be filled with joy and bliss; he will hold on to joy and bliss and not suffering. Suffering is not worth holding on to. But then you have the advantage in complaining; because whenever you say that others are making you suffer, the burden of responsibility is no more on you. And when I say to you, all the scriptures say to you and all the wise men have said only one thing that you alone are responsible and nobody else, it becomes quite a burden for you.

You already know too many techniques to be happy; that's what is creating the mess. Unhappiness is a by-product of the desire to be happy. Frustration is a by-product of the desire to succeed. A state of defeated, bored, wearied being, is but a by-product of ambition.

Have you ever been unhappy when you were not expecting anything? When you don't expect, you are simply happy. Happiness is natural; unhappiness is earned. Unhappiness needs much effort; happiness is simply the case.

Still pain is a pain.. But time heals a bit.. That interval timings gives us a maturity.. So yeah we started to enjoy our sorrows, pains and sufferings as well..

Nope ! We are not forgotten to get happy.. Happy and sad kind of emotions keeps changing depending upon the situations..!

In this verse 84 of Geethanjali, the Poet Laurette mentions the Primary Grand separation - of a divine spark, as the cosmos - from the Whole (Absolute = Brahman) that gave birth to shapes (beings) innumerable (infinite sky = cosmos). He ends the verse saying that 'this overspreading pain deepens into loves and desires.. in human homes', which is typical of human search for 'that missing joy' which he seeks to find in the fleeting phenomenal world of family, society and world at large.. But only the wise shut off the illusory exterior and turns 'inward' to find that 'missing' joy shining very much 'within' himself...!! In the older editions of Geetanjali, by Macmillon, an Irish Poet laurette gives a beautiful foreward saying how the verses suggestive of spiritual yearning as well as appreciation of worldly creation (in which also the Poet did not miss to enjoy the beauty of the 'hand' behind) virtually transported the readers to a world of ecstacy.

We live in a society that shares so many things that much of the time we suffer and we don't even know it. We suffer so many other people in so many ways it is hard to quantify. We could be just driving down the highway and get honked at by an impatient late to work individual making everyone else pay for it. The hunger in this country for tension and more tension is tremendous. The more sophisticated we become the more demand there is on us to coordinate with it so as to make it work. So, how can one relax in all this? In fact it appears that we live in a society that thrives more on the tension than on the relaxation of its activities.

You become fake, No one enjoy sorrows, pains and sufferings.

Yes. We enjoy to live in misery and suffering. It makes music so much better though. :)

Well,I haven't. And what techniques are there for happiness? I don't think I ever learned them.

I think, YES, It is the must,due to the Disillusioned Love of Our Life.

Yes. Look at all the emos out there.

No. Look at Day9 for example

yes. with a hope that happiness is taking birth from the sorrows.............like coming out of a moon from the dark night every day..................