Help! Daughter's boyfriend's mother is calling my girl "daughter"!?

I have to agree with you, it seems odd and immature for this woman to call the 15-year-old girl her son dates "daughter." I've never been one to go in for "instant intimacy" and thought that most of the women that I know that brag about how their kid's friends all call them "mom" had a screw loose. Whatever happened to "Mrs. So-and-So?" But that's a whole 'nother subject.

In matters such as this, I always feel that it is best to bite your tongue. My reasoning is this: if you say ANYTHING less than positive about this fella and his mother, your daughter is going to jump to his/her defense. The more you criticize, the more feverently she is going to defend and THEN she will start to confuse defending somebody with "loving" somebody. Then that whole "it's you and me against the world" thing starts----that "my Mom just doesn't understand me..." gig begins, along with, "...but I LOVE him!!!!" And if it does get started, sooner or later your daughter would say something to her boyfriend and/or his mother, then this other "mom" is going to be even MORE understanding and MORE eager to welcome your daughter into their sticky web.

So, I would continue to set the normal boundaries you would for any child her age, go above and beyond your best to refrain from saying anything that is going to cause her to "have to" defend him, remain as neutral and cordial as possible, and just pray like no tomorrow that this whole thing will blow over soon! Phew! Good luck!

it doesn't matter if the boy is poor or not cause she could do worse. At least she's not with someone that abuses her. He is probably more embarrassed than you if he has barely anything to wear. If he treats her right it doesn't matter. Also if the mother keeps saying stuff like that you can tell your daughter you dont like that but as long as you know that she will never choose her over you than theirs nothing to be scared about and look at that from a different angle maybe she just wants your daughter to feel comfortable about her being around their family and theirs nothing meant by it. If the boy makes her happy you should be happy. that's how i feel on this subject.

What a circus! I agree with you that this woman is was out of line. What mature woman says these things on Face Book? Let us hope your daughter gets tired of all the differences between the boy and herself and moves on to another crush. Right now it may be just those differences that are the attraction. 15 is too young to date. No dates until at least 16 unless it is group dating. Like church youth group or school activities with parents providing the transportation and there are chaperons.

You sound like You want Her to only date rich educated people, also its not like She's off having Sex with this Boy, nor does the Boy sound like white trash or a druggie. So You should take a chill pill. Your daughter likes Him, so let Her enjoy Her first Boyfriend and be happy for Her. You sound like a Judgemental snob, and caring what other people think so much. Lifes better that way.

you sound like a stuck up *****! ur daughter should b able 2 date whoever she darn well pleases wether he's rich or poor or black or white.

and i c nothing wrong with his mother calling ur daughter "daughter" bcuz it obviously shows how much she cares 4 YOUR child.

get a life