I can't stop thinking about my ex. I really need help , I've seen a psychologist but it's not really helping?

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Hello , like the title says , I've been through a break up with my ex-girlfriend. The problem is , it's been almost 2 months now but I still feel as bad as when it happened. I can't stop thinking about her and looking at pictures of her just keeps on making me cry about how much I love her. Every night , I can hardly sleep because I know I'm going to dream about her. It's killing me inside and I don't know what to do. I've seen a psychologist but it hasn't done anything great so far. My ex told me she doesn't love me anymore but I'm okay with that. I just can't get her out of my mind. I haven't seen her since the break up. She's supposed to come at my mom's wedding party in 2 weeks but I really have no clue on how I'm going to react , nor know how she is going to react. I've lost over 10 pounds from training since she broke up with me and I know I've mentally changed. I just need to know what to do because I don't think I'm going to be able to last long like this. If anyone has a hard time understanding what I mean I can clarify somethings out , so all you need to do is ask. Thank you to anyone who can help in advance. My relationship with my ex isn't horrible. When we broke up we weren't mad at each other nor became mad from the break up. She wanted to stay friends ans she actually insisted too. I'm also re-writing this question because I forgot a couple points , I almost didn't ask my ex to come to the wedding because I didn't want her to say no , but she actually said yes the second I asked her and didn't even need to convince her , making it way easier. But thing is , I don't know if there is a reason why she accepted so easily , even tho she says she doesn't love me anymore and wants to stay friends. She's not the type of person to do so. I can't wait to see her at the wedding , but I don't know how I'm going to react and more specifically , how I should react. Sure , I'd like things to come back to normal , but I don't want to do any bad moves.. What should I really do? I'm so confused right now..

PS: This is a similar question that I already did before , I'm new so I don't really know how this works..

greg j. · Accepted Answer

First off, a Psychologist will listen to your problem, then prescribe some kind of drug to help
alter your present state of mind.  You need to see a Psychiatrist.   Also, dwelling on the past 
is not healthy for you, mentally or physically.   She has told you she doesn't love you anymore.
Why then, did you invite her to the wedding?  You are setting yourself up for more disappointment 
and more heartache.  Why do you do that to yourself?   Women seem to think a friendship can 
evolve out of a broken relationship.  Men are not programmed that way.  So please, get that thought
out of your head.  You will always be hoping that some day she will want you back.  That won't
happen.  So get over her, find someone that is going to want a relationship with you, and get on
with your life.  Life does move on, you just need to catch up now, and then enjoy your life with
someone else.

Anonymous · Answer

Did you guys have proper closure? Sometimes when a relationship ends, you have to have a certain kind of closure.
She should not be coming to this wedding. You should not see her. Seeing her and talking to her will only make you feel worse. You need time to heal, and you need to avoid contact with her until you feel you are ready to be friends with her.
Get rid of the pictures/anything to do with her. Seeing that will only make you feel worse. Explain to her that you need time to get over her and that maybe you can be friends in the future.
Right now, surround yourself with friends and family and pick up a few hobbies to keep your mind off of her.
When this happened to me, I ended up in the hospital because I was so devastated that I couldn't control my thoughts. When I was released, I found that volunteering, working, and keeping a clean house helped keep my mind off of him.
You may have to turn off the radio for awhile...I had to because every song made me think of him. It took me 6 months before I was strong enough to turn the radio back on.
Finally, put yourself out there! There is nothing wrong with going on a few dates and having casual fun with other girls who will make you laugh. You will enjoy their company.

I will be praying for you. I know this is hard. Good luck and God bless.

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