Isn't okay to miss the birth of your child, when your reason is THIS valid!?!?!?

What if your daughter, or you wife dies during delivery? Ever think of that? I hate to be the one to say such a horrid thing but thats why we show up for our family during major surgeries. ANYTHING can happen. Especially if she has already had complications. If you cant be there for the birth of your child, just leave her all together and start sending child support.

I completely understand why the two of you are at such a disagreement. It's completely respectable that you want to be there for your big game, but the birth of this little girl will never ever happen ever again (even if the two of you decide to have more children in the future). This is a one time kind of thing, you know? AND it's her first child.

Weather softball is your job or your hobby, I would definitely have to say that it's best to be there for your wife. I'm sure you know, from experience with your first child, how much pain and stress the mother goes through throughout those nine months of carrying the baby, and then going into labor or having to have a C section or whatever. It's a lot. And I mean a LOT.

It shouldn't matter that your daughter is not going to remember this moment. Your wife will remember this. I couldn't even imagine having a baby without my husband there. I would be devastated. Yeah, so like I said, it's definitely safest to go and see that baby being born!

Hopefully the two of you can come to some sort of agreement where you both win! If you end up going to the game to play, good luck! And congrats on the baby!

You have to remember, women are very emotional people and they don't forget things. She will remember this moment for the rest of her life, don't make her regret it because you weren't there, it may also cause many many relationship problems in the future just because you had to play your ball game. I love sports too, and if I was in your shoes, sure I would love to play for the softball game, but the birth of your child is way more important. Look at it like this, you can play a ball game that will only last a couple of hours and loss your wife and your child, or you can skip the ball game and live a happy life with your family for the rest of your life that doesn't last just a couple of hours like a silly ball game. Remember, even though you already have a child, these times aren't just your memories, they are your wife's too, and she would definitely want the love of her life to be with her while she's giving birth to her first born child, C section or no C section, it's all the same. And 24 hour delay can make a whole lot of a difference on the health of the child. The doctor is the one with the medical degree, he has the knowledge of what's best for the child's health, so trust him. You mentioned that the Lord blessed you with another ball game, maybe this wasn't much of a blessing, but a test for you to see if you will be making the right choices, a ball game vs. the birth of your child and the memories of your wife.

Are you for real? You even said that there have been problems with the pregancy so how would you feel if something happened to your wife baby or even both. An what happens when your child finds out that a game was more important then the day she was born. Get you act together an grow up!!

That is not a valid reason to miss the birth of your child. Sorry, but even though your daughter wont remember your absence, your wife sure will. She'll remember how she had to experience what should be the most joyous occassion without her husbands support, because instead he was playing softball. Men overseas having no choice but to miss their child's birth would gladly trade places with you and actually show up at the hospital.

I agree to dis-agree

The Doc should be able to move the date if its scheduled........

BUT

Your wife should come first before anything else.. With that said if your scheduled time of your kid is the same time as the softball game don't go.(to the game) Trust me Don't Go! Don't hold that against her or that will cause issues upon issues through out your marriage. Show her Support and tell her that your willing to miss your big game... If you show her that support she might try and convince the doc as well.

Who knows if you time it right you might be able to swing both! How sweet would that be.. New Dad and Softball champ all in one night! But be a Dad and Husband first before anything else. There is always next year!

If my husband chose a softball game over being there for the birth of our child I would divorce him.

However most C-sections are done very early in the day - if hers is early you might still be able to make the game.

Most fathers care more about the birth of their child and watching a life that they created come into the world then they do a softball game.

You are are dead a$$. It takes nine people per team on the field in "i am an old man now and cannot hack baseball so I am gonna play the sissy baby girl version with the bigger ball and I want to live vicariously through my missed opportunity in youth" SOFTBALL. OH my, you are kidding me. A stupid game will replace the birth of your child? How dumb. As if that child will ever be born again. Face it, you will always have old dude softball, you can do that anytime.

. the doctor told u the truth my sister lost her bsby from it being overdue. it basically comes down to which one is more important. ur eife should be angry. u have no idea what its like to have a baby in you 4 months not to mention the physical pain. ur wife.like anyother mother is ready to be done, and its highly selfish of u to put her in such position. I hope she does what right 4 her... if u love n trust ur wife then why would u think shell miss treat u. I hopr u change or I ganuree u. u wont much longer in this relationship. it about u two not just u