How to deal with a mother in law and your wedding?

Two important principles:

1. Choose the date that works for you and your fiance, not anyone else. Now that you're pregnant, it's got to be soon. MIL doesn't like it? Well she doesn't need to like it, all she needs to do is be there. Don't let her or anyone else bully you into moving the date. A month or two between the two weddings is plenty, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

2. Let your fiance deal with his mother. It's an important marriage principle: each person deals with their own side of the family. You and your fiance set the date and then it is your fiance's job, not yours, to talk to his mother and make sure she she comes.

Honestly I think this big family meeting is a mistake. You should just set the date, organise it, and tell the parents when they've got to be there.

It sounds like your guys are doing way too much way too soon. I understand that you are the couple getting married, but all too often, the couples forget about everyone else in the family. Your MIL sounds to me like she's stressed out of her mind trying to figure out two weddings 2 months apart. Is she helping to pay for either one of them? Or is she doing the "mom thing" and just buying a few things here and there? Either way, 2 weddings so close to one another is stressing her out. You're not thinking from her position.

I know that you want to rush everything and get it over with, but seeing as how your wedding is pretty much less than two months away now, what is your guest list and food bill looking like? Plus your pregnant due in May...my Lord, this just seems like way too much. I don't think your MIL was trying to be a bytch or anything, but she's probably just as overwhelmed as you are, hun. Being the mother of a marrying couple isn't an easy task sometimes, and if she's worried about money and trying to help pay, maybe you should move your wedding to October. Less stress for everyone, baby's here, and you can take your time planning.

I have to agree with Finally!

There's also Christmas in December, if that's a holiday you celebrate. For your mother in law, it's a lot going on at once. I can't blame her for acting that way.

My future sister in law is getting married in May. Her brother decided that he wanted to be married in May as well. She chose her date before her brother, but the brother's fiance's family basically demanded it to be in May, and are paying for it. (My sister in law already put a deposit on the place she is getting married at) To add some more spice, my sister in law's sister is pregnant, due in May. Imagine what that mother is going through!

You are also going through a lot. Moving, planning a wedding, and having a baby. Add on the stress from your mother in law to top it all off.

Why the rush to get married? Yeah you're moving, and having a baby, but those are all of YOUR choices. You are cramming in everything at once, especially in the busiest time of the month!

It's good that you are having a family meeting, but I do have to agree with your mother in law. From my point of view, your actions are selfish. Once you move you can plan a wedding there. People will travel to weddings, with advance notice.

You can do a Justice of the Peace, and a small ceremony afterwords. Nothing too expensive, that is, if you really need to get married next month.

Just shut her out. Keep her in the dark. Send an invitation. And she will attend as a guest.

Who cares if she wants you to marry next year? Her opinion does not matter.

first of all the wedding is to your husband and your MIL has too much power over the situation. Baby trumps everything. Baby needs to have mom and dad married before birth. Does the word bastard mean anything?

Your family is responsible for the wedding, and planning is up to you and your picked helpers. Sounds like your future husband is tied to mom and not standing up for him self. He figure moving will get him away from mom. But if she has this power today, she always will.

Get your future husband to stand up to mom now, or your wedding will be a disaster,.

Three things will kill a marriage, sex problems, money problems and in law problems. Any single one of these can kill any marriage. Work on your BF to fix this.