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what should I do- I love him?

I have discovered some inappropriate paedophilic porn on my fiancees laptop, and confronted him about it. He apologised for being so stupid, got rid of the laptop and will do his best to work through it all. Will he be able to? What do I do? It made me sick to find that stuff and I feel bad about it.

He is a very gentle character and other than this is very respectful and kind.

Any advice would be appreicated- I advised him that if I found anymore I would have to report him.

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  • 10 years ago
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    I have a friend who found the same thing on her live-in boyfriend's computer. She confronted him the same way. About 3 years later, her 9 year old daughter spoke up at school and announced the guy had been molesting my friend's 3 children for years while she was at work. He was not their father. My friend was traumatized to learn from court testimony that the guy had done just about everything imaginable to the kids. When she first found out and was shocked, she tried to defend him but later changed her tune. At any rate, Child Protective Services took the children away from her and placed then with the natural father and his new wife. My friend only has limited visiting rights now and, even though she did not harm the children, she is not allowed to be alone with them by court order. Her ex-boyfriend was convicted and sentenced to 8 years in prison. The whole nasty business ruined my friend and her family. She is constantly depressed and misses her children terribly. Because of her mental condition now, it is getting more and more difficult to maintain our friendship. It's something you should think about. You don't want your boyfriend playing games with your children later on. Turn him in. Get rid of him before he harms an innocent child.

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    'He is a very gentle character and other than this is very respectful and kind.'

    How can you justify that statement and ever trust him again?

    How do you know whether that is all of it?

    Does in have access to the internet anywhere else?

    Are you aware of what category of material it was? Did you know they classify it from 1 to 5?

    Come on, use your brain and think about this.

    How can you actually possibly consider spending the rest of your life with a man who has a interest in this?

    You will never ever be able to trust him with children and if you think you can forgive and forget what you have discovered about him you are just plain stupid!

  • 10 years ago

    'He apologised for being so stupid'?

    What else was he going to do - he got caught!

    Just think about it if he didn't? Just think about it now that he THINKS he's off the hook.

    Please report him.

    THIS IS SERIOUS. THINK ABOUT THE CHILDREN HE SAW. THEY ARE REAL.

    Besides you're now an accessory after the fact so for your own sake turn him in otherwise WHEN the police find him out, you could be going down with him.

    Also think about God on judgement day:

    "It would be better for him to be thrown into the sea with a millstone tied around his neck than for him to cause one of these little ones to sin".

    Luke 17:2

    God bless.

  • 10 years ago

    leave. before it is your own child this happens too. It won't change, it won't get better and he won't quit, he will just find sneakier ways to do it. move on and quit feeling sorry for someone who does and thinks such horrific things. He needs help, but you staying there will not help you at all. If you didn't know this already you would not have asked. It's not an option to stay unless you are ready for doubting, questioning, wondering, and ultimately being more horrified when something worse happens.

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  • 10 years ago

    I dont think your feelings or that of your boyfriend are the most important factor.

    The children in these images are suffering or have suffered terrible abuse. By informing the police about these images you may actually make a difference and save some innocents.

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    10 years ago

    When knowing someone have those sick picture on computer I get rage.. That not right.. He isn't the person you thought he is, leave him before it get worse.

    If he is touching some little kid, call the police please and report him.

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    I would leave, that's tough to turn around from. On the same hand however, I would NOT inform law enforcement. The government messes up everything they touch.

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    Get your fingers on your vagina and go to Letmejerk.com

    Best free porn site around

  • 10 years ago

    How would he get such video's anyways? they're prohibited on the internet you'd better investigate about it

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