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I found a string of messages from him telling this woman that he loved her. I m devastated. He hasn t rang/text or answered his phone as we need to talk about our daughter and our unborn child. What should I do?

I ordered a Samsung Note tablet on ebay, paid for it and was sent two by mistake. Where do I stand on this legally? Do I have to return it? Not sure if its a genuine Samsung or not.

Your advice is much appreciated

A few months ago, my sister in law was being kicked out her home by her brother- and asked me to rent my old house. I gave notice to the existing tenants, and then threw away the furniture in the place, as she wanted her own stuff in there. She didn't even stay the whole month and moved out- leaving me in the lurch and very angry. It cost a thousand pounds to replace everything and get another tenant in. I told her to get out of my life and stay out. I probably shouldn't have texted her that as I swore at her a lot, but I'm pregnant and couldn't cope with all the drama coming from her.

Yesterday she tried getting in touch with my husband again and I went mad. She obviously thinks nothing of what she did and is arrogant enough to think that she hasn't done anything wrong. So I FB her a message to basically f**k off out of our lives. She's now saying she's going to the police for slander- which I know you can't do- you have to sue someone for slander through the courts, but there are reasons for it. Can she do that? and is there anything I can do to retaliate like sue her for all the costs I have incurred? I also lost one of my twins I was carrying during all this process

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A few months ago, my sister in law was being kicked out her home by her brother- and asked me to rent my old house. I gave notice to the existing tenants, and then threw away the furniture in the place, as she wanted her own stuff in there. She didn't even stay the whole month and moved out- leaving me in the lurch and very angry. It cost a thousand pounds to replace everything and get another tenant in. I told her to get out of my life and stay out. I probably shouldn't have texted her that as I swore at her a lot, but I'm pregnant and couldn't cope with all the drama coming from her.

Yesterday she tried getting in touch with my husband again and I went mad. She obviously thinks nothing of what she did and is arrogant enough to think that she hasn't done anything wrong. So I FB her a message to basically f**k off out of our lives. She's now saying she's going to the police for slander- which I know you can't do- you have to sue someone for slander through the courts, but there are reasons for it. Can she do that? and is there anything I can do to retaliate like sue her for all the costs I have incurred? I also lost one of my twins I was carrying during all this process

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Help! I'm stuck in a situation that I don't know how to get out of! I tried to help out my sister in law and she has been a complete cow! Nothing I do is good enough for her and all she does is moan and complain about things that have nothing to do with me! Its wearing me down and making me depressed. She hasn't even acknowledged the fact that I have tried to help and just moans about everything not being good enough for her. Any advice is appreciated.

My boss is a control freak and can't delegate for jack. I know he has trust issues from previously being let down, but its nothing that I can do. Recently he was going to hand over a large project and send me on a formal training course, saying that he trusted me to do it. Now a few weeks later, there has been a complete U turn, as if nothing was ever said in the first place. I'm so fustrated, and I don't want to loose my job, but I'm so upset over this. I don't know if I should bring it up or how to even. I do understand that there is a lot happening in the company at the moment!

I have discovered some inappropriate paedophilic porn on my fiancees laptop, and confronted him about it. He apologised for being so stupid, got rid of the laptop and will do his best to work through it all. Will he be able to? What do I do? It made me sick to find that stuff and I feel bad about it.

He is a very gentle character and other than this is very respectful and kind.

Any advice would be appreicated- I advised him that if I found anymore I would have to report him.

My partner and I want to start a family, but there are a few things that make me feel like its never going to happen...

1. We're both in our early 40s

2. He has ED- not all the time, but sometimes, and its enough for him to sometimes not try at all- sometimes for weeks.

3. He's self employed and business is not good- I work full time, and bring in the money- if I became pregnant, how would he be able to support our child?

I know that these shouldn't be deciding factors but in this day and age- they are. Don't jknow what to do- feel like its an uphill struggle and loosing the will to live, especially over the ED which is soul destroying. He has said a few times he will get help, but so far he hasn't.

Any advice would be appreicated.

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My current boyfriend had a one night stand last year before he met me and was told he was the father of a child- who was born 2months before the due date, weighing 7lbs! So naturally we don't think he is the father. Since then, he has asked the mother on numerous occasions to get a DNA test done- which she has agreed to, but keeps coming up with excuses and delaying actually getting the test done. Why?? Surely if the mother KNOWS its his child- she would do it asap? Waiting around for her to do it is exhausting. His name is not on the birth certificate, she dosen't want any support (yet) she won't give him her address and all she wants is for him to bond with the child which he has found hard to do not knowing if its his. Is there anything to do to resolve this? Its a stupid situation!

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My current boyfriend had a one night stand last year before he met me and was told he was the father of a child- who was born 2months before the due date, weighing 7lbs! So naturally we don't think he is the father. Since then, he has asked the mother on numerous occasions to get a DNA test done- which she has agreed to, but keeps coming up with excuses and delaying actually getting the test done. Why?? Surely if the mother KNOWS its his child- she would do it asap? Waiting around for her to do it is exhausting. His name is not on the birth certificate, she dosen't want any support (yet) she won't give him her address and all she wants is for him to bond with the child which he has found hard to do not knowing if its his. Is there anything to do to resolve this? Its a stupid situation!

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My current boyfriend had a one night stand last year before he met me and was told he was the father of a child- who was born 2months before the due date, weighing 7lbs! So naturally we don't think he is the father. Since then, he has asked the mother on numerous occasions to get a DNA test done- which she has agreed to, but keeps coming up with excuses and delaying actually getting the test done. Why?? Surely if the mother KNOWS its his child- she would do it asap? Waiting around for her to do it is exhausting. His name is not on the birth certificate, she dosen't want any support (yet) she won't give him her address and all she wants is for him to bond with the child which he has found hard to do not knowing if its his. Is there anything to do to resolve this? Its a stupid situation!

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My boyfriend has had some trouble over the paternity of a child he was supposed to have concieved in a previous fling last year before he met me. He has doubts because the baby came 2months early and weighed nearly 7lbs on birth. The mother insists that the child is his but will not do a dna test to prove otherwise.

He is being slated for not being in the child's life etc when he feels he can't bond with the child, not knowing if its really his. Anyway, he has asked to meet with the mother and child to get dna samples to get the whole thing cleared up, but the mother keeps delaying and playing games so that it dosen't get resolved. Why does she do this? Surely if she was so sure that the child is his- she would make sure that it is confirmed? So why would she avoid the dna test?

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My boyfriend has had some trouble over the paternity of a child he was supposed to have concieved in a previous fling last year before he met me. He has doubts because the baby came 2months early and weighed nearly 7lbs on birth. The mother insists that the child is his but will not do a dna test to prove otherwise.

He is being slated for not being in the child's life etc when he feels he can't bond with the child, not knowing if its really his. Anyway, he has asked to meet with the mother and child to get dna samples to get the whole thing cleared up, but the mother keeps delaying and palying games so that it dosen't get resolved. Why does she do this? Surely if she was so sure that the child is his- she would make sure that it is confirmed? So why would she avoid the dna test?

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My boyfriend had a fling with this girl and supposedly got her pregnant- the baby was 4months early and weight 6lbs7. He wants a DNA to see if its his. She says she agrees to a DNA if he is involved more. Who's right here??

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Hello- I hope someone can give me some good advice...I don't know whether this is an issue or whether I'm just being silly.

I've been with my boyfriend for 3months and its been going at a really fast pace- he's 42 and I'm 39. We are in love and its a lovely relationship, we both are old enough so that we know what we have in each other.

The thing is- he isn't very sexual, and for the first time in my life, I feel unfulfilled- everything else is fine, but when it comes to sex-it feels like I'm always initiating it and he sometimes rejects me and I'm finding it hard to not take it personally.

Also, last year- he had a fling with a girl and supposedly got her pregnant- he dosen't know if the child is his or not as the baby was 2 months early but weighed almost 7lbs- he isn't in any hurry to find out if the child is his- and even if he were, he does not intend to be part of the child's life on account that he has no feelings for the mother.

I guess this play on my mind- though it was before he met me and really isn't any of my business.

I really love him and don't want something as little as this to affect our relationship. Can anyone give me an outside point of view?

Many thanks

Ok- I know how this sounds- so please don't jusge because I can't help how I'm feeling and will make it as short as possible...

My boyfriend and I were dating for 8months (he's 40 and I'm 38)- he is in the military so he isn't the most sensitive or forthcoming of men, but we fell in love. It was a long distance thing and with his heavy work load (he's front line) it was always hard to make time to see each other but we tried as much as possible. Last month we were texting and he casually mentioned turning me into a housewife- which shcoked me, as I wasn't expecting him to be thinking like that- or anything of the sort, so I just joked back but was excited at the same time.

Then the weather snowed and we couldn't make it to see each other- and things got strained and he became heated on ther phone to me. I had always been a bit paranoid because we met on a dating website and since we been dating, he was on and off it periodically, even though we had spoke about it- he said he was just chatting to people. Anyway I noticed he had logged on and found he had another profile also.

I managed to go and see him and we spoke face to face and told him I had found it- and how upset I was. He tried to deny it- but then explained that he was confused and had a lot of pressure and didn't want to upset me.

Anyway that was 2 weeks ago and since then I haven't heard anything. I've sent him texts and left messages, but to this day there is nothing at all from him. I've asked him if we are over or not, but nothing- his mobile is switched off. I'm really hurt, and just want to know what is going on- the pain I'm in is unbearable.

I have no idea if I am going to see him again or not- if I hang in and wait or accept that this is his way of telling me its over- I have no idea. Please help me- I still love him and its difficult to move on or know what to do. I was thinking of waiting for a few more weeks and hope that he gets back in touch, but don't know if this is the right thing. I JUST DON'T KNOW!

Thanks for your opinions

Ok- I know how this sounds- so please don't jusge because I can't help how I'm feeling and will make it as short as possible...

My boyfriend and I were dating for 8months (he's 40 and I'm 38)- he is in the military so he isn't the most sensitive or forthcoming of men, but we fell in love. It was a long distance thing and with his heavy work load (he's front line) it was always hard to make time to see each other but we tried as much as possible. Last month we were texting and he casually mentioned turning me into a housewife- which shcoked me, as I wasn't expecting him to be thinking like that- or anything of the sort, so I just joked back but was excited at the same time.

Then the weather snowed and we couldn't make it to see each other- and things got strained and he became heated on ther phone to me. I had always been a bit paranoid because we met on a dating website and since we been dating, he was on and off it periodically, even though we had spoke about it- he said he was just chatting to people. Anyway I noticed he had logged on and found he had another profile also.

I managed to go and see him and we spoke face to face and told him I had found it- and how upset I was. He tried to deny it- but then explained that he was confused and had a lot of pressure and didn't want to upset me.

Anyway that was 2 weeks ago and since then I haven't heard anything. I've sent him texts and left messages, but to this day there is nothing at all from him. I've asked him if we are over or not, but nothing- his mobile is switched off. I'm really hurt, and just want to know what is going on- the pain I'm in is unbearable.

I have no idea if I am going to see him again or not- if I hang in and wait or accept that this is his way of telling me its over- I have no idea. Please help me- I still love him and its difficult to move on or know what to do. I was thinking of waiting for a few more weeks and hope that he gets back in touch, but don't know if this is the right thing. I JUST DON'T KNOW!

Thanks for your opinions

Big or little- just why?