I resent my husband and need advice?

My husband and I are Christians, married 8 years. You really should seek out Christian Counseling. Ask your church to make a suggestion. If you don't have insurance, give up something to offset the cost. Or, put it this way, would you pay a million dollars if you knew your marriage could work? Okay, then you should pay the $90 or whatever a session to make your marriage work. Also, don't stop counseling because you don't like your counselor, just try another. Also, it may seem like counseling is not helping, but in the long run, it will. It sounds like nobody ever told you that love is a choice. You decide to love someone. If you are relying on a "feeling" then you are in for a rocky road. Also, as long as Christ is at the center of your marriage, then you can be assured that you are moving toward each other as well.

I felt like this in the early days of my marriage too. I stuck it out only to realize later that I DO love him and there's no one else I could love more. Something I found helpful back then was role playing. I pretended that I loved him, even when I didn't feel it. I new deep down inside that I wasn't stupid for marrying him and he was a great guy who was worth the effort, even though I was so resentful at times. Acting as if I loved him was not lying to myself. It was keeping myself on track when things were so foggy I couldn't see the road. I would snuggle up to him, give him back rubs, make him his favorite dinner, write sweet e-mails, etc. as I did when we were dating. That acting game brought on more loving feelings and reminded me why I married the guy in the first place. We've been married for 12 years and still going strong.

Hope this helps.