My boyfriend of 4 years has never given me a birthday gift and did nothing for my birthday today?

Happy Birthday! Rule one for HIM- on special days do something for your girlfriend. If he WON'T then you need another man. I was married to who I think you have now and I'm divorced but I have a wonderful man now that would sooner cut off his own arm than make me unhappy in any way. Didn't expect him. I felt horrible every birthday, Christmas and vacation, they were all about him and not me during my first marriage.

I think you have every right to be upset. Anytime you have an opportunity to make the one you love feel special you should try to do so. Here is a time where he can do that and if he doesn't feel the need to do that, I would call into question the rest of the relationship as well. Many women say their reason for divorce is because their husbands didn't make them feel wanted, needed, special. If you're boyfriend is already not doing that, what will that mean later in life?

I'm not saying your relationship is doomed. But just that you should confront him with this and really find out if you mean as much to him as you think you do.... as you hope you do. I hope it works out for you both. Oh, and Happy Belated Birthday!

Sounds like a pathetic boyfriend.

No job. No future. No effort.

I'm not attracted to that type and so I'd never know how I'd feel.

I guess I'd feel like I was an idiot for having such low self esteem as to stay here for 4 years when there are a million other real masculine men out there. But that's just me.

I don't understand why girls make birthdays such a big deal...really its one step closer to death, one step closer to wrinkles, aging etc. I'm a girl myself too and I don't expect anything on my birthday. Its just like every other day in my life. And you don't have to waste money on his birthday too. And if you're not materialistic then you don't need 1 special day for him to spend time with you. He could spend everyday with you. Everyday should be special, not just your birthday. Yeah I think it is immature when people cry over their birthday because no one gave them special attention...like not to say you're not special, its just that you should be special everyday.

Today was my 18th birthday and my boyfriend of 3 years did nothing except give me a card. That was it. I completely can empathize with you. I really don't know what to do but he really broke my heart. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Happy late birthday.

If these things are important to you and not important to him, find a new boyfriend. If this has not improved over 4 years time, this is it. face it, it ain't gonna change. The question is, can you live with that or is it itme to walk away? Only you know the answer to that. Me? I'd walk

your question said it all, your life with him will always be mundane, nothing will ever be a big deal because i bet it's more than just forgetting bithdays- what about christmas, new years eve, valentine day probably the same, right?? sounds like no romance or spark, could you imagine all the MAGIC of marriage.

so sad hearing a one-ended relationship of how one side gives more than the other. I've been there before, and I learned that it's a personality/experience issue. Give him a talk about it, casual, don't be too angry and keep it LIGHT TALK. good luck

I wouldn't stay with him.

get over it. my life really sucks.