I'm 47 and my wife just left me - what do I do ?

My parents divorced after 32 years and my Dad was 52 at the time. He was the same way you are now, and while he's still hurting after a few years that is because he's not moving on at all and still hanging on to hope my Mom will want to come back. He did start going to a divorced men's group at a local church (that he doesn't attend, it's open to everyone) they have meetings and talk once a week, and they also go out and do things together. I think you should really google something like that for your area. You'll meet other men in the same situation so you'll have someone who understands and is in the same position, and make some new friends to go out with. Women are really turned off by guys who seem desperate, so if you start building your own life they may be more attracted. I'm not saying you're not a great guy already, but by the way you describe yourself you don't seem to have much self esteem. You sound like you have a lot to offer another person. Focus on that and anyone who doesn't want to give you the time can just miss out!

I'd say you need a serious attitude adjustment.

I suggest you come to the Philippines and spend a couple weeks on vacation during dry season. That's now until the end of June. Pick one of the smaller cities in the Visayas like Iloilo or Bacolod.

There are plenty of good looking women here with old fashioned values that are college educated and speak good english. All they are really looking for is a decent guy, with a steady income that will treat them right. I am not talking about hookers or bar girls.

I was a Widower at age 37 after a marriage of almost 12 years. To make a long storey short I could either hide in a bottle and eat a bullet or make a bold move and change my life. I am happily remarried and been living in the Philippines since 2002. I met my wife through mutual friends. But there are many websites. Just be care full of scammers who prey on foreigners. It's a 50/50 shot but the way I saw it, 50-50 is way better that 99-1 against in the states.

Check out this free website:www.livinginthephilippines.com . Tons of free info and a forum with other foreigners like me that are married to women from the Philippines.

Good luck.

Just relax, being lonely is the hard part and it forces us into thinking we can not do it alone. Truth of the matter is once we start slowing down and enjoying ourselves we become much more attractive to the opposite sex. Nothing wrong with going to a local sports bar for a beer or two for dinner and watching a game over time you will begin to meet people and increase the circle of people you meet. There is nothing wrong either with asking your married friends to go out to dinner and to do something even if it is with both of them. Dating sites are not a good fix most of the time, what you need to do is increase the people you meet, and enjoy yourself, you will be amazed at what can happen.

You seriously talk about being a flop and think this is of interest to all those 40year old single gals I see in my spin class who are spinning their brains out so they! Aren't alone on Friday night?

Clean cut and successful is who they all want. They don't care if you got dumped so don't tell them, silly! You are a hot commodity, a guy who can commit who is now back on the market.

And now I will give you my famous advice, go to a site called ask men.com and go tom the dating and love section and read every single word, especially the stuff by doc love. He has a website but his answers to his ask men questions cover a lot of ground. He talks about getting some game, and that is what you need.

No one wants you? Join a hot gym and take spin classes, they are crawling with girls who really want to meet you.

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Start doing other activities hit the Gym go to the billiards table's and play... Get in touch with your active side. Eventually you'll find someone that shares your similar interests. Option B if your wife still loves you win her back start changing your routine clean the house cook for her show you care about her when men stop appreciating women that's when we think you guys don't care about us anymore.

Become a pick-up artist.

I'm extremely serious when I say this. Chat up and flirt with women everywhere you go. You are rusty so you'll just need to warm up and get moving again.

Women out number men in your age group. Plus you can date women from 35-50 easily. You'll be fine if you're willing to do the work.

Rejoice.

Time to hit the gym and start dating 30's.

Take this time to become self reliant.

Are you really OK with depending upon a woman to survive?

You are such a useless douche-bag that you are incapable of preparing a meal?

I think not.

Be careful how you approach potential dates. No one wants to hear that you are lonely and needy. Take the advice of others here and grind out some happiness being single. There are many benefits. go find out what they are.

How about enjoying your free time and enjoying being single! Trust me if you can be happy single you will become more attractive to women!

A wife or a girlfriend isn't required for happiness! Desperate men are pitiful too!