Are they gay? Real close friends!?

My ex lover and I remain "friends," but I realize he's not very friendly. In fact, he's a jerk. Over several months of hanging out, I started liking his friend, but they seem awfully friendly with each other. His friend is much sweeter and sometimes seems to like me (perhaps my wishful thinking).

My ex "Buford" just lights up when his friend "Evan" enters the room. He follows him with his eyes while this silly smile is plastered to his face. They're 26 and this is the THIRD TIME they've lived together. Buford hasn't had his own apartment except when he was out of the country. Any other time, he lives with Evan. (Even with no job.) Evan seems upset when Buford and I aren't getting along- even though it has nothing to do with him. Buford has always spoken very highly of Evan and has even gotten very upset with me when he feels I'm not treating him with the utmost respect. Buford also looks to Evan to form his own opinions. He'll wait until Evan approves of something before he approves. He'll wait for Evan to laugh before he laughs, etc. Once when they were expecting me to come over, they were obviously asleep. I felt Buford's bed and it was cool, but his blanket was warm. I wonder if they were on the couch together! Evan knows Buford's poetry and even the different themes he gets hung up on. I just found out that they're out of the state together and will take another trip together for the holidays soon. When I speak of the relationship between Buford and I, Evan always seems uncomfortable. Buford noticed that Evan and I were getting along very well and getting to know each other. He was obviously jealous (but I wonder where the jealousy actually lies). He acts like Evan is his leader. Actually, Buford has always seemed to want Evan to dislike me. Often, if I'm animated he'll look at Evan in hopes of agreeing on some negative opinion, but Evan NEVER SEEMS TO BE IN AGREEMENT. When I pointed that out to Buford, he told me I'm not a good reader of Evan.

Evan seems to notice who I am. Sometimes he's aloof. Other times, it seems he's just awaiting my reaction to something. He stares and stumbles over his words sometimes. Even among friends, it seems he's speaking directly to me at times. We pay attention to each other, waiting to see how each other will react to a joke, movie, or something. Buford will huff and puff and roll his eyes nowadays, as Evan and I find more similarities between us. I mean Buford no harm, but with all of the things he's done, I'm not going to stop myself if there is really something there between me and Evan. Evan notices things about me that Buford hasn't even acknowledged in years of being around me but has not made one doggone mother bleeping move toward me! He always goes into his room when receiving a phone call, but when I call him (twice now), its obvious that Buford is near him while we talk and Evan seems really uncomfortable. This hurts a bit- like there is nothing private between us. Lately, he's been complimenting Buford a lot in front of me. Geez. Years ago, at the very beginning Evan didn't seem to approve of me, so we've come a long way. I remember Buford winking at me in the beginning and Evan had such a strong reaction. It was like he couldn't believe it. I've wondered about that for years. The last visit, Evan was helping me in the kitchen and opening up about his family. By the end of the night, we were really entertaining each other! I've asked Evan to meet me by himself to talk (we've HARDLY been alone in years.) He seemed nervous. I want to know what to say. How do I get to the bottom of their intimacy and find out how he feels about me?

Twice I've suspected men of being a couple and I've been right both times! Now I suppose I'm paranoid. Do they sound gay to you? Am I a hag?!