I dont think my boyfriend loves me?

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Ill make this as short as possible, but I dont think my boyfriend of almost a year really loves me at all. I think he used to, but things have completely changed. He is very faithful to our relationship and he buys me pretty much anything I ask for, but thats the only thing that seems right about it. On the other hand he in the past was phyiscally abusive to me (but has stopped) and extremely verbally abusive. He says he hates me, f you, your a b word.. all the time! I ask him to not say those things I understand hes mad but I just feel like you dont talk to someone you love like that. He also always accuses me of cheating on him and lying (I would never) .. Im typing this trying to hold back tears because I honestly feel like I try to be the best girlfriend to him I can, but the verbal abuse is pushing me away. Tonight, after a fight I told him I just wanted some space (just to clear my mind and take time apart to ourselves so neither of us says anything we dont mean) .. I only do this in hopes it strengthens our relationship and he hangs up on me and texts me back "take your space you b, f you i dont want to hear any of your s h i t anymore". Its just so hurtful, I try to hard to keep our relationship together and he never makes comprises or meets me halfway. I honestly feel like its all me keeping this relationship together. Im the one always running back to fix things ..if it were up to him he would never try to work it out. It just really sucks, how much I love him but I dont feel like he feels the exact same (although he does say he loves me daily). Im starting not to believe it anymore. If he loved me wouldnt he respect me enough to not talk to me or treat me that way? Wouldnt he want to do anything to make us work? Its no talking to him because he just shuts me out and says he doesnt care all the time. I am probably answering my own questions here, but I just want other opinions.. because I love him so much but I dont want to keep leading myself on thinking itll ever change, when it probably wont :(

Update:

In the beginning of our relationship he was the sweetest, most caring person ever. If we ever had a fight he would want to fix it, he wouldnt just let us not fix it. he would be the one running back to me. And he never ever called me names or talked to me so disrespectfully.

Update 2:

Im not happy because he doesnt seem happy with me no matter what i do, and I really want him to be happy, even if it isnt with me. its just so hard to let him go. But its probably best. I know time heals everything ..

Katy809 · Accepted Answer

I don't think this relationship is going to make you happy, you are suppose to feel happy. that guy doesn't deserve you, you should had break-en up with him after the second time he started calling you like that. Don't hold on to that relationship any longer, you should not let any guy tell you those things twice or hit you twice. When a guy does that you tell him "this happens again and it is over" and mean it please be strong there are so many good guys and the bad ones turn good when their girls don't tolerate things that. Tell him if he hits you or call you any of those names again it is going to be over, tell him how much you miss the guy you started dating
btw: do u know why he posibly could had change?
good luck, feel better <3 hope eveything gets better or find a better man
if you need anyway to talk to I would be happy to talk to you :)

? · Answer

The word 'love' is too general of a word to have much meaning in it.

I'd say that your boyfriend is attracted and attached to you.  But he doesn't treat you well.  And he doesn't care that you aren't happy with him.

If this is love, then it's only a half-hearted love.  You can probably find better love than this with some other guy.

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