How much do a girl's parents appreciate it when the guy asks their permission to marry their daughter?

My husband 'got permission' from my parents before asking me to marry him. I was so pleased he did as I felt he had been planning for the engagement and had given it a lot of thought. It also showed that he respected my parents and was a good start to their relationship. I really like the thought of the 3 of them being excited together and me being oblivious to it all!

I don't think it's about getting permission anymore; it's just a nice thing to do.

Good luck

Well, in the US today, in most cases it's not asking permission. It's asking a blessing, which is far different. With a blessing, you're basically telling the father you're going to ask his daughter to marry you, and it would mean a lot if he gives his "blessing". There's an implied statement in all this that the marriage will take place with or without it.

My hubby did it and my parents were thrilled. It was just showing respect. And it happened before he proposed, but his proposal didn't come as a shock.

Bravo - there are gentlemen left in this world. You are so sweet to think of meeting her parents this way. There is no way I'd say no to someone that wanted to marry my daughter and handled it the way you want to. Seems like you have all the details worked out. Early congratulations to you - have a wonderful life - :)

I don't know about other peoples parents, but I know my parents gained a ton of respect for my husband when he talked to my dad before proposing to me. He knew I came from a pretty traditional family, and that while my dad wouldn't tell me who I could and couldn't marry, he wanted the respect shown of knowing my husbands intentions first. Obviously, women aren't property and you don't have to ask permission anymore, but it does show a great deal of respect (and balls) to talk to the parents (father especially) first.

If I were a parent of an adult daughter, I would feel sorry for her that her significant other felt anyone else should be included in their decision to marry. It's a decision to be made between a couple, it then makes sense they make an announcement after they are engaged.

It depends on the family-how traditional they are, what is their dynamic. In some families, this is totally expected, while in others, it would be considered absurd. This is not a one size fits all situation.

My husband did not say a thing to my mother before he proposed (my father had died 10 years prior). It was not an issue in the slightest. She was and still is thrilled for us.

I'm fairly certain my dad would've been pretty annoyed if my husband had tried to 'ask permission'. He didn't raise his daughters to be anyone's property needing permission to make life decisions. The respectful thing is to talk to the woman in question before consulting anyone else. Anything other than that is disrespecting one's future wife.

If you feel weird about asking "permission," you can still do something that will make you feel good and make you look good.

Take her mother & father out to dinner beforehand (be sure you're the one who pays) and let them know you plan on proposing soon, and you hope for many years of happiness as their future son-in-law.

I say all this hoping you already hoping they like you enough and it would go well.

I don't know about permission, but their blessing might be nice. My husband asked my parents separately (they are divorced) and I know it meant a lot to them and certainly put him even more in the good books with them!

Well I just got engaged about 3 weeks ago and it was a total shock. my fiance asked my parents permission 6 months prior to asking me and I cant tell you how much my parents appreciated him asking my hand in marriage. Parents will have a much great respect for you because by asking them your showing respect towards them which is greatly appreciated