Why cant he let this go and just move on?

Any suggestions? Yeah, let this mess go.

This is what I see.

1. You got married right out of high school because you were pregnant.

2. He hasn't been faithful almost from the start.

3. You keep giving yourself excuses as to why you have to give it another try, over and over again - but are never happy with the results.

4. He doesn't care enough to change his ways to keep you - keeps up the cheating behavior, refuses counseling, - but doesn't want you to actually leave, because that will inconvenience him.

5. He started with the cheating, but you have been doing it too, and not just once, but for 3 years, with different people.

You are not getting what you need within this marriage, nor is he. Neither are faithful or committed to it, or each other. Both are indulging in self destructive behaviors. Why NOT end it properly?

What a mess! Wow! Are you serious? I'll take you at serious.

I have NO idea what to recommend.

You guys are as loose with your love lives as you were with your brains when you did drugs and your lives need some tidying up.

I mean...you had deal breakers early on...like when he did drugs while you were pregnant and was violent...and you are right to own that having an affair is not the way to go...I mean if after "two days" of trying you were wooshed off into another affair...

that means you aren't really stable or interested in repairing the breach with your husband.

And what kind of monster are you NOW involved with?

Hint: Most really decent guys won't touch a married woman with a ten foot pole. They have some sort of inadequacy in themselves...think about it...they don't have the confidence to pursue a truly single, confident women...they look for the woman who is miserable in her marriage because next to the dolt she married? They can be rico suave or whatever...

I think that telling the counselor (and possibly the police in the form of a protection order...and possibly a lawyer as you file for divorce...good luck with that one that will be a rollercoaster ride for you...) that you want out is a good idea.

If you don't want it you don't want it.

It's too bad you have kids.

It's too bad you have had so many affairs.

It's too bad your hubby is a wierdo with many issues.

I wish you the best sorting this out. i encourage you to keep your child's best interst in mind...and I'm not sure sleeping with a little league dad was the best idea...going that route? If it goes sour? Your son's career in littleleague is finished.

Good luck. =/

For the record I appreciate your honesty (If you are indeed not a troll) and if this is true this isv ery, very sad.

You should have called the police when you found the profile. =/ And called a lawyer. I wish you luck in sorting this out.

Some people get through this, I guess? But this is quite a mess. Good luck. =/

I say I would have left a long time ago...but I have also stayed with someone much longer than I should have...so I won't say that. You need to be strong. He's cheated, you've cheated (though I feel that your indiscretion was prompted by lack of respect, lack of love, and lack of self-esteem) and there is never an excuse for anyone to put their hands on you. His trying to prevent you from leaving is also a form of abuse and you need to put an end to it. It's obvious that he doesn't care about your feelings or how you perceive his behavior, so what is there to salvage? More cheating, more abuse? Your best bet is to stay gone. Get counseling to understand that leaving is your only option and don't allow for the sweet talk and empty promises to take away from what you know needs to happen. Good luck.

Your husband is a batterer and a counselor should acknowledge that. If they don't find one who will. A batterer gets worse and worse, more violent and more violent, more self-serving as time goes by. He will separate his victim from her friends and relatives emotionally and physically.

There is not one reason in the world you should stay with this person. He does not intend good for your life or the lives of your children. He intends to satisfy his own selfish desires whatever they may be. If he "changes" it will only be long enough to keep you from removing the assets (you, your service, etc) he has. Once you are stuck again, you will be stuck in the same mess as before.

One description of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Don't be insane.

A) Realize all of this is completely your fault, you married him at a young age and had kids at an young age - your fault.

B) He sounds like a loser, why would you want to stick around?

C) Sounds like he would be a horrible father, I'm sure your kids are already screwed in some way or form, why make it worse?

Edit: You are afraid your ex-husband may become violent. Wow you really are a moron, call the cops. You really do have terrible taste in men.

Geeze this is so intense. This always happens everywhere. I always see the fine attractive women always dumping their first marriage husbands all over the place.

He's an idiot for leaving such a beautiful and caring woman. You're better off with out him (heck for all you know he could some VD by now).

Give me a call, you need to dump the latino men and start going with a caring local boy.

I didn't read any of this, mostly because I got lost in the thought of turning you out.

You married too young - that's painfully obvious. Just end it and stop stringing your husband along.