Why am I never turned on..?

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Now before we go any further, this all could be just coz I'm a virgin. Kay.

I'm 17. Female. I have had a boyfriend before but the farthest we got to being physical was making out. I was barely turned on by him. In fact, I'm barely turned on by anything. I'm not on birth control. I do find women attractive and I know I would be fine being in a relationship with a girl. But I'm still not really turned on by them. Is it just coz I'm a virgin and don't know what it's like yet?

I've had a thing in my past that could have caused me to, for lack of a better word, fear sexual contact. My cousin sexually assaulted me when I was 5 and I literally couldn't remember it until I was about 12 or 13. Could that be it? :/ sah confused.

A.J. · Accepted Answer

Being sexually assaulted absolutely can cause sexual and emotional disturbances that can last for years.  You really need professional help.  Talk to your school counselor; they can get you in contact with someone who can help you.  Do this now, while you can get free or low-cost counseling.  If you wait too long, the opportunity for this free help will go away.  You'll still need help, you'll just have to pay for it.

Anonymous · Answer

yes it could be because ur a virgin and dont know what sex feels like with a guy or girl. maybe u need to be single and experiment with both sex to see what you like and dont like. yes the thing that happened to u cud have caused it also have u talked to a councelor about it?

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