I have a deep fear of penetration (you know where)?!?

Deciding to stay a virgin until you marry is fine and normal. Being so scared that the thought of using a tampon makes you faint is not normal.Visit sites run by makers of tampons and watch the videos they have on how to insert them buy a box of tampons and get used to handling them and looking at them. Try to stay relaxed and try to insert one only insert them while you are bleeding as if you are not they can be harder to remove them. If you are still scared then it may be you need to seek help as the fear is deeply embedded and will need more experienced help

I agree with the person above me saying to take it easy! If you get so nervous you faint, stop right before. The more you try to force the tampon in, the harder it's going to be because your "area" is so tense. I was the same way, believe me you're not the only one. As for the other thing, congrats on your decision! That's very responsible of you. I think before you think of that though, you should be more comfortable with yourself first. This might sound icky (and it might be the first time) but maybe you can use your own finger to get used to the idea of something up there...? Just an idea. Once you're more comfortable with yourself, tampons will come easy!

Good luck love! :)

That is very normal and I dont think you should worry so much about it. As for the staying a virgin thing....I think your doing the right thing. Wait until you feel its best for you to have intercourse. With the tampon..... you just need to relax. It isnt as bad as you think. When inserting it JUST RELAX. I dont consider it to be penetration either unless your feeling some kind of sensational feeling from it. Make sure that the tampon is far up inside to the point were you dont feel it but the string is still visible. Relax Relax Relax.... Thats the key.

Just take a deep breath and relax. A tampon doesn't go as deep or is as large as a penis. you put it in and there is a nice string to pull it out when you are done (generally 8 hours). Like a suppository, it's uncomfortable to put it, but once there, you shouldn't feel it. Try it out on a weekend, when you have a lighter schedule, and can check things out if you are uncomfortable. Talk to other girls too, to put your mind at rest. Good Luck!

No, you have a phobia. You will need to get professional help. Basically what you might end up doing is gradually introducing things in you, a little at a time, till you get accepting of it. Like before a tampon, you will use a finger. And you won't put it in, you'll initially just leave it near the entrance, just for a moment. Then for longer, then you'll put it in a little bit for a second, then next time longer, etc., working your way up to bigger things for longer periods of time, till you can use a tampon, then other things.

No this is not normal. You should seek professional help. Do this before you find the guy you want to marry because otherwise that relationship is already doomed.

Get professional help. That is not normal.