Getting divorced. Wife wants to move 1,000 miles away with kids. Should I complain or not?

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My wife and I are in the process of getting divorced. We live in Boston. She has made it clear when we are divorced she wants to move back near her family in Atlanta (1100 miles away). I understand that she wants to be near her family but that is so far away and would make regular visitation or joint parenting nearly impossible. 

We have a four year old boy that I adore. I don't want to make things difficult but its hard for me to accept not seeing him on a regular basis. We also have a 10 month old daughter. Unfortunately I don't have much of a connection or relationship with my daughter. We have been separated since she was 3 months old and I have had little one on one time with her. I see my son basically every day still and I don't know that I could go with only seeing him every couple months. 

I work in Massachusetts and all of my family is here so I cannot and don't really want to move. Do you think it would be negative on our kids if I made a big deal of my ex moving so far away? Should I complain or just let it be?

niecy_2o04 · Accepted Answer

Yes you should complain! There your kids!!! There are enough deadbeat fathers out here we don't need anymore plus little girls need there fathers in there lives

Diana · Answer

Tell her exactly how you feel about it. She should know this straight away; it's not fair, they're your kids too. It's also not fair because it would be painful enough for your son and daughter. It's not like you're asking her not to move, but discuss it with her, think of a compromise. You don't have to talk about it in front of the kids. All they should know is that mommy and daddy love them. Or you can convince her to visit Massachusetts every once in a while, like once a month. Just to see your kids. Or you yourself can take a break to visit Atlanta every once in a while. But whatever you do, you have to speak up. Your other alternative is probably never seeing your son in a long time. Hope I helped. :)

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If I were you I would fight this with all I had, I would even move near my ex spouse just to be able to see my kids as much as possible. I am a women if my husband and I got divorced I would never leave state to live with out my ex moving near me. Even if I hated him so much that's not right to make it hard to see any ones child. It sounds like you are close to your son and it would break his heart if you did not see him as much as you do now. As for your daughter even though she is less than a year, one day when she gets older and does not see you, it may be hard for her.  so i urge you to think about the future of those kids even if that means moving, but she should not be moving to another state, I would try to stop that now. asap

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Wow are you a stand up guy. Asking strangers online if you should fight for your kids, and basically admitting you don't give a crap if you see your daughter. I am from Boston too and I am disgusted a low life like you lives in my city. Let her leave and never see your kids again, they deserve much much better

Anonymous · Answer

I would fight for it! If it was me id fight for custody so they lived with me, but if you don't want more court problems id talk to her about it. I would be devastated if that happened to me! Do what you gotta do to have ur kids in your life cuz it sucks not having a dad to be there all the time.

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Yes

Anonymous · Answer

You do know family court can restrict her from leaving the state with your child?

Get a lawyer.

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