I made a huge mistake. Help, please?

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My best friend has been struggling with her feelings for me for the past several months. She's been really depressed and conflicted, which has caused a lot of tension between us. On Valentine's Day, she had a complete emotional breakdown and I somehow ended up in a one-week trial-dating relationship with her. 

Unfortunately, she's taking it too seriously, talking about prom and stuff like that.
She's the kind of person who needs a deep, committed relationship. I, on the other hand, am not cut out for relationships at all. I'm fickle and don't think highly of relationships in the first place (I think that they are pointless). I also can't handle my emotions, so I don't like them. Plus I'm definitely not in love with her.
I did it to make her happy because she had been really depressed, and it's achieved that much. But I'm in a bit of a downward spiral and I'm already feeling guilty about it. I don't want to break her heart by cutting it off, because it had mostly been my idea. On the other hand, I'm not sure if I can handle her being so excited about it while I'm just like "What have I done? oAo."
I'm kind of stupid.

Anyway, what do you suggest I do?

(Also, yes, we are both girls. That's why she was so worked up about it. But, seriously, I need help. I can't just ignore the problem since she is still my best friend, a lot of people already know about it, and I see her every day.)

lordreflexis · Accepted Answer

Did you explain that your in a one week trial 

At this point Put the problem on your self, meaning that you took on a relationship in a time frame that your not 100% just explain to her that your not ready, and want to focus on school and so forth and at this point you can only give her 10% of yourself and not a 100% You may have to Lie a little and say your confused about your orientations as well ,meaning whether you like boys or girls.

 I can only assume its the latter, since you didn't indicate, if I am wrong my apologizes!! And at this point not 100% that You don't want to date for various of reasons and its not fair to her that she is in LOVE  and your unsure, Put it on your self and apologize to her that your simple not ready and don't want to wind up hurt or hurting and loosing a best friend just say the friendship is most important vs a full on relationship ?

Your in a pickle with an emotionally unstable person so Your only option is to put it on yourself and be very emotional about it how bad you feel If she is a good friend she can understand.

personally if  someone told me I can't commit at my emotional state right now because I have other focuses and can only give you 10% I would understand but then again I am a lot older then you and I wouldn't want to be in a relationship that's not 100% commitment 

hope that helps
Lr

Anonymous · Answer

After the "one week trial" sit down and be honest with her. Tell her that you love her as a best friend and nothing more. She will be even more hurt if you lead her on. Sometimes, dating ruins a friendship. It is a risk you take.

Puppy Pride ツ · Answer

I can understand needing to vent, It's a rough situation. If I were you, I'd tell her, very gently, that you didn't want it to get so serius so fast. Make it clear that you still like her and all that jazz, but you're uncomfortable with moving so fast and........so forth, tell her to  back off, but in a polite wayand she'll be ok. :)

Gamer · Answer

Explain to her that you just don't feel the same way and that you aren't ready for a serious relationship but that you'll always be friends.

c&#39;estmoi · Answer

Honesty will set you free.

Just tell her you love her as a person, but not romantically.  It will be hard, but don't let her use emotional blackmail to keep you.

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